2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
In Harlow's experiment, the little monkeys were given a choice between two different "mothers." One of the mothers was made and soft terry cloth, but did not give food. The other was made of wire, but provided food from a baby bottle attached to it. The scientist took small monkeys from their mothers a few hours after their birth and gave them to be raised by these surrogate mothers. Most of the monkeys preferred to spend time with the "terry mother", and they came to the "wire mother" only to eat. Harlow concluded that the comfort of contact with the mother mattered far more than food. The results obtained during the experiments of the scientist correspond with the famous works of Buolby, who said that communication arises not only as a result of the satisfaction of primary needs, but also through clinging to a primary object.
At the same time, it is not at all surprising that the cubs raised by a surrogate double mother demonstrated neurotic behavior. In further studies, after babies were given a rocking surrogate, they showed fewer developmental abnormalities. It is not surprising that relatively normal development and optimal adult functioning were observed only in those monkeys who had contact with a real mother for at least 30 minutes a day. Thus, the scientist suggested that human babies also need a supportive touch. Nurturing touch ensures normal development and enables you to grow up to be a psychologically healthy person.
When we are touched, at the point of contact, pressure is exerted on the skin, under which are located pressure receptors, called Pacini's lamellar bodies. Taurus Pacini. being irritated by pressure, they send a message to the brain. Signals from Pacini's little bodies are directed to the vagus nerve, an important bundle of nerves located deep in the brain. The vagus nerve has branches that travel throughout the body, including the heart. The vagus nerve slows down the heartbeat and lowers blood pressure. It is important that the vagus nerve serves the gastrointestinal tract and has a significant impact on the processes of digestion, assimilation and purification. It is also a "switch" between the sympathetic and parasympathetic nervous systems. In addition, touching reduces cortisol, while simultaneously increasing the release of oxytocin, which stimulates feelings of trust and affection.
Babies, who are often touched during the day, as adults, do not experience a deficiency in cortisol receptors in the hippocampus, unlike those children who do not receive touch and are exposed to stress: these children, as a rule, grow up people with a reduced number of hippocampal cortisol receptors. When a stressful situation further provokes an increase in the level of cortisol, there are fewer receptors for its production and cortisol fills the hippocampus, having a negative effect on its growth. In such a case, a shrunken or damaged hippocampus is less able to suppress cortisol release, and the person may be permanently blocked in states of high levels of emotional arousal and stress.
Apparently in no other period of life a person depends so much on warmth and care, which in particular express themselves in an emotionally warm and caring touch. It's hard even to imagine a small child without a mother and her care for a growing person. A mother's attitude, her concern, safety, abandonment, always go together. For a child, the absence of a mother (not always actual) means fear, insatiable need, hunger, which in the future of a person's life become an obstacle and cause serious disorders of psychoemotional and physical development. The absence of a mother is tantamount to the child's loss of basic self-awareness and causes a severe trauma that cannot be completely healed. If a child lacks a mother or another, constantly caring person who not only satisfies basic children's needs, but is also ready to show emotionally and physically love for him, then such a child is deprived of the most necessary for his development.
To the credit of many psychologists, there are many published studies today that teach parents about the need for full participation in the life of a growing person. At the same time, the industry of childhood, along with the production of useful goods for children, offers a huge amount of toys and materials to ensure not the well-being of children, but the free time of their parents. I have watched several happy mothers who purchased these toys, anticipating how they will free them from the annoying child. Time will show what result we will get from such "usefulness".
I will end with a dream of my client, which she kindly allowed me to use in this publication.
Elena, 31 years old. “I am lying on the beach, not far from me I notice a man who has very beautiful tanned skin. I want to seduce him. But he goes to the ocean. I think he will not return, he will drown. Then I notice my mother. I shout “Inna, Inna”, but she doesn't hear me, I jump up and run to meet her: “Inna, mom, it's me. Mom is such a sun, I want to lie down. Let's lie down together. " We go to bed. My bedding is not enough for the two of us. I give in to her mom. I myself am lying on the sand. Fire sand. “Mom, touch me,” I ask. But the mother puts on her glasses and turns her face to the sun. “Mom, touch me,” I continue to ask. She says: "That man in the ocean, let him touch you." Then I have sex with that man, his body is cold from the water, it is very pleasant, it cools me down. I want to absorb it. I'm crying. I woke up crying."
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