2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
The crisis of the forty-year-olds (from 35 to 45 years old) is a "crisis of summing up the first outcome of one's life." In our time, it is during these years that the conditional boundary falls: "I have passed my life half way."
At this age, the craving for independence becomes more acute and irritation against “working for an uncle” grows. According to statistics, more startups are launched by people from this age group. But, unlike the “bold projects” of twenty-year-olds, at forty people already clearly understand what segment of the market they are entering and what real opportunities they have to do something in this field.
At this age, people can no longer "write with boiling water" and "exhale steam", their energy is much less than that of twenty and thirty years old, but there is less tossing and flickering. At the age of 40, people usually no longer commit acts that lead to a senseless waste of resources and energy, no one “splashes prowess” and does not try to throw dust in their eyes.
Consequences of rampant infantilization
Contemporary Western culture is marked by disdain for old age and even its displacement from the field of attention. It is no longer fashionable to be gray-haired and wise today. On the contrary, both women and men strive to look young and look as young as possible. This applies not only to physical form and appearance, but also to lifestyle and even mental state. We can say that modern people are more childish than their parents' generation.
However, at the age of 40, nature begins to send the young generation the first signals that age is something real. Wrinkles appear near the eyes, the tone of the body changes, fat accumulates, which becomes more and more difficult to drive away, minor and serious sores and health problems appear. Young forty-year-old men and ladies are starting to look a little ridiculous.
We can say that the age crisis in the forties is a progressive transformation of an infantile “aging youth” into an adult. Naturally, this does not always go smoothly and without problems.
Irresistible gender inequality
For women 40 years old is also a subjective and biological milestone for the birth of their first child. They could not cope with this insidiousness of nature in the process of the struggle for the emancipation of women, and feminism, which became fashionable at the end of the twentieth century, cannot solve this problem. There is some injustice in this: men can remain infantile up to 50, or even up to 60 years, and then take part in the birth of a child, while women are assigned a reproductive age clearly measured by nature.
The weakening of the institution of the family leads to the fact that for men the crisis of forty years is sometimes accompanied not only by existential problems, but also by the desire to conduct a kind of revision in their personal life. At the age of 40, there are quite frequent cases of men leaving the family due to the appearance of mistresses or the desire to start a new family, as a rule, with a younger woman.
Growing up children and generational conflict
By the age of forty, children usually begin to grow up in people, in some they reach adolescence, and in others they are already sexually mature. A new type of problem appears, and family spending increases.
In family quarrels and conflicts, children are already beginning to play not only the role of involuntary witnesses, but also quite active participants. And very often they are the ones who initiate conflicts. Children begin to show character, to defend their rights, their personality is more and more clearly manifested in them.
In recent years, a kind of generational conflict has intensified. Parents, whose youth and youth passed in the nineties, and who themselves made their way into people and won a "worthy position in society", cannot understand their children, to whom they gave everything, but their children do not want to realize the ambitious plans of their mothers and fathers …
Desire to start your own business
By this age, people are either already realizing their career ambitions, or they understand who their career has not worked out. It becomes more and more difficult to change one job for another with an increase in the position and salary, the fear grows that, having left the current job, a new one will no longer be found. And at the same time, fatigue and boredom from working in the same place or in the same area accumulates.
It is already too late to change careers, so there is a desire to radically change life and open your own business, in which it will be possible to realize all forgotten and suppressed hopes and dreams that have been swirling in my soul since a young age.
By the age of forty, the magical effect of family scenarios ends
By the age of forty, many social or family scenarios are usually realized, within the framework of which representatives of this generation built their lives. It is worth noting that both positive and negative scenarios lose their magical power. But when the unconscious program, according to which the life of people was realized, ends, then the usual ways of mobilizing psychic energy and vitality stop. Having got rid of or outgrowing their scripts, people are forced to look for a framework for setting the meaningfulness of their lives. It is for this reason that the crisis of the forties sometimes acquires such a strong existential intensity.
It is difficult to say for what reason the action of family scenarios stops at the age of 40. Perhaps due to the fact that by the time people reach a certain maturity and independence, their parents just become forty years old. Thus, the magic of parental spells and curses loses its power precisely by this age line, and in the same way children are no longer fascinated by the logic of their family rituals and the logic of the general interaction of parents with them and with the world.
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In an amicable way, by the age of forty, something like wisdom should come to a person. In general, this is happening to one degree or another. You can understand how to form and develop such intellectual abilities as reflection, understanding, forecasting.
How wisdom can be cultivated is difficult to say. But at 40, the world turns to a person with some new side, perhaps the vision of the world and oneself in it from a slightly different angle and contributes to the awakening of wisdom
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