2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
First of all, I would like to outline the concept of corporeality, which I use in my practice. Physicality is the next level of development after psychosomatics and body-oriented psychotherapy, it is the balance of the soul and body, the analysis of the manifestation of this balance and its imbalances.
Analyzing the different stages of human ontogenetic development, one can observe and analyze to what extent these two components of understanding and explanation are harmonious in their interweaving and interaction. The interaction of soul and body is usually stereotyped for each individual person, regardless of age (each age has its own stereotypes). The task of a psychologist or psychotherapist is to help a person transform and adapt these stereotypes, since it is almost impossible to change them.
How does this balance manifest itself in different age periods?
The child is dominated by the body, which the society (others) supplement with attention, care, care and guardianship. This period is NECESSARY, and it is NECESSARY bilaterally. On the one hand, adults provide the child with the necessary (satisfaction of physical and emotional needs) - this is what is needed from the parents or guardians. On the other hand, the child develops norms of social behavior within the framework of the culture where he grows up - this is what is needed from the child. If the child lacks something, an imbalance arises, and he begins to get sick or behavioral problems arise. In the process of treating these diseases, loved ones increase social care in the form of care and attention, thereby filling the mental need for attention, the child's body receives an additional necessary portion of touches.
In the period of puberty, the dominant of the body remains, but the moment SHOULD change to WANT, the teenager is trying to shift the emphasis of harmonization, but society is not yet ready for this and the internal conflict moves to the interpersonal level. At first he makes fun of his brothers and sisters, snaps back at his parents, can snarl at teachers and strangers. On the one hand, a teenager asks questions to himself and others, begins to doubt, to look for answers - who needs it, why, why. Relatives who are accustomed to the fact that the child reacts to NADOs are difficult to rebuild and require habitual reactions from the teenager. On the other hand, the emerging WANT brings confusion and self-doubt into the child's soul - I want to be fatter, thinner, higher, lower, stronger, and what I want to do is mostly related to my own body and the task of loved ones is not only to change their attitude from the position of SHOULD, but also to be able to balance the child's attitude to himself, to help accept himself.
The next stage of maximalism, when the balance shifts even more towards the soul, but the body continues to dominate. This is a period of abrupt changes in moods, assessments, a period of maximum extreme, protest, denial and immediately agreement. This is a period that runs on average from 16/18 to 25 years. It's time for extremism and the most violent actions. Physicality during this period is also subject to maximalism - I want to be the smartest, or the strongest, or the most successful. By and large, it does not matter in what - it is important - most, you need to stand out. For girls - a period of dreams, they are all ideal, in dreams of a "prince" (the criteria are infinitely variable), just like for young men - a period of dreams - in dreams all knights and heroes capable of achieving and overcoming any obstacles. Regardless of gender, everything is on fire in the hands, the perception of opportunities, the whole life is ahead.
After 25, maximalism gradually begins to subside and by the age of 30/35 it becomes possible to form a mature personality, in which the soul and body are in balance, in which it is NECESSARY at the level of awareness, as well as WANT. A mature person knows how to prioritize, realizes when, why, why, with whom, relevance is a priority.
In the next stages, the soul increasingly dominates, the body increasingly needs external support, but understanding age-related changes, a mature personality maintains the harmony of the soul and body, regardless of dominance. This is the main symptom of acme.
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