2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Sensitive and interested people
as in your personal development,
and in relationships with other people,
every day they take steps on the path of self-development and growth
Often you have to repeat these steps or change the trajectory of movement, sometimes there are "enchanted" dead ends that do not have a clue at the moment. It is a long, difficult and continuous journey. The path that has to be traversed both with loved ones and alone, even in the presence of a trusting and sincere relationship.
Today I would like to pay special attention to this lonely wandering among people and events.
1. Pain is unique, only one person can understand it
There are peak periods when mental pain deprives a person of his own feelings and sense of reality. Its uniqueness is that debugged and well-developed ways of getting out of the situation and state do not work.
No matter how hard you try to work in advance on relationships with loved ones, build them with a strong contribution and dedication, in such a situation even the closest people fail. The "failure" itself initially occurs in ourselves, when a complex event occurs or other important realizations about the past or present come and the psyche may not be able to cope with the entire load.
Part of the processes of experiencing is subjected to "freezing", often a sign of this is the feeling of inadequacy of the reaction to what is happening. Sometimes in such states a person begins to doubt his mental "normality", but in fact, the inadequacy of the reaction is often associated with a state of shock from what is happening and an objective inability to react naturally until the emotional state is slightly balanced and sensitivity returns.
A feeling of unbearable mental and sometimes physical pain precedes or accompanies "frozenness". This pain is so subtle and acute that the awkward movement of both loved ones and the person himself can traumatize even more.
Experiences during periods of such severe mental pain are associated with a reassessment of life meanings and values, the significance and content of relationships, and basic trust in the world and others is violated. The uniqueness of this pain is that it is quite difficult to describe it in words, even with an excellent vocabulary, this pain inside a person, it has not yet found a place for itself in the real world.
It becomes almost impossible to get support and support from others, there are not enough simple and understandable words of support and approval in other situations. It is difficult to share such pain with another person, because it is your own pain, but such, the depth and degree of which only you yourself can know. She wants to scream, destroy everything around, if only it doesn't hurt so much. A person is in search of a way out of this unbearable state.
2. Go out to people, even if you don't want to
In this state, a person is faced with a feeling of not only acute mental pain, but also acute loneliness, thereby bringing the process of experiences into an even more acute phase.
The feeling of misunderstanding and mistrust in the world only fuels this state, but here it is important to make an effort on yourself and still go out to people. This must be done at least so that the feeling of total loneliness does not swallow the person entirely, because getting out of this state back will be just as painful as diving into it.
It is extremely important that at least on a physical level you are not alone. But don't overwhelm yourself with excessive communication, even if it happens in the usual way. Take care of yourself and your resources, you really need them.
3. This is an extremely difficult, but not permanent state
Nature is so arranged that there are certain cycles in life, and now an extremely difficult, but also passing stage, is happening to you. It will end, and with new strength and experience you will be able to breathe and move on.
I would really like to help people
to reduce their feelings of pain and sometimes even helplessness,
but in times like these, the best I can do is be there
But these are not just words, but a conscious choice to be close to people who are experiencing such unbearable pain. Frankly, this is one of the most difficult points in working with clients, but these are the strongest and most worthy places that cannot be recreated as an experiment, this is the purest and invaluable experience.
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