2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
I constantly hear such a request from those who contact me through social networks, through my videos on the YouTube channel. I have derealization, I have panic attacks, I have dizziness, I have IBS, I have obsessive thoughts … What should I do?
When you read such questions, on the one hand, you want to answer and answer in detail, but on the other hand, it is almost unrealistic. Let me explain.
Absentee recommendations for neurosis are fortune-telling on coffee grounds
Can you guess the status of your neurosis without seeing you? You can guess. Just like you might be diagnosed with diabetes if you have high blood sugar. Or a diagnosis of hypertension if your blood pressure rises. Or a cold diagnosis if you have a fever. But these are just assumptions. In practice, symptoms like neurosis, colds, hypertension or diabetes come from a variety of reasons. And mistakes will cost you dearly. Yes, you can help yourself with neurosis even on your own. Only in the beginning it is important for you to be sure that you have a neurosis and to know its specific form.
There is no advice for neurosis
More precisely, they exist, there are even a lot of them. Only they don't work.
Keep a thought journal, do meditation, Jacobson relaxation, use relaxing breathing, do DPDG, get enough sleep, get more rest, be less nervous, find people who support you, do not hold yourself back, take up a hobby. And … the list goes on and on. All these points are useful in some way.
And, behold, you have derealization, panic attacks, obsessive thoughts and rituals. You try something from this list … and everything remains the same. Why? Because these advice does not affect the cause of the neurosis or the mechanism of its existence. Yes, useful. But not effective. Unfortunately.
Recommendations for neurosis are complex
But! If you have a neurosis and say to you: “there is no advice for neurosis,” then this does not help you in any way. You still want help. You are asking for a recommendation anyway. And here we come to the level of difficulty.
Neurosis is not a cold or cystitis, in which it is enough to prescribe one antibiotic and wait a week until complete recovery. Or just wait, hoping that the problem will somehow resolve. In this respect, neurosis is similar to a computer virus. Which makes all the programs that are on your computer constantly slow down. But the operating system on the computer can be reinstalled. And our brain is not re-installed. Therefore, there are recommendations for neurosis, but they will sound too difficult:
- you need to remove the neurotic reaction of hypercontrol, restraint or, for example, hard perception
- you need to learn how to fulfill your needs
- you need to improve your self-esteem
Yes, such recommendations are already useful, but still not clear. Especially if you have symptoms right now. And you suffer from them.
You can cope with neurosis yourself. You just have to become a specialist
Sometimes it seems to those who suffer from neurosis that psychotherapists and practicing psychologists are simply hiding the necessary and important information. They do not say openly and directly what to do. They know and hide. So, I'll tell you this - it's not true. If you take textbooks (high school) on psychiatry (for doctors) or psychology (for psychologists), then you will not find any specific schemes for correcting neuroses. Recommendations - yes, you will also find schemes for prescribing pills. There will be no guarantees for these recommendations. It will only be written there - the forecast is generally favorable. But a step-by-step ready-made algorithm for correcting a particular disorder is not. After all, they do not exist. And each case of clinical neurosis is a puzzle in which you need to find a means to correct your thoughts, emotions, neurotic reactions, needs, self-esteem, current life circumstances. That is, like a psychotherapist, you need to follow the chain:
Formulate symptoms - understand the status of your neurosis - understand the triggers of your symptoms - find possible methods of influencing the mechanisms - test them in practice - add techniques / change techniques if the current ones are not suitable
And if you start right away with psychological techniques?
And further. As soon as your gaze catches on the word “tricks”, it is inspiring and most immediately try to find and use them. There are hundreds of them. They can be found in the public domain on YouTube. Yes, you can. AND EVERY trick you use that doesn't work for you … heightens your feelings of helplessness and anxiety. That is, it enhances the neurosis. What if there are several such failed tricks? In this case, what happens to the belief in your recovery? You think you understand this yourself.
Conclusion. Do not seek advice for neurosis - contact a specialist or become a specialist yourself.
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