2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
There can be different things here.
Prove to my friends that I'm not a loser. To make my parents proud of me. Show my husband that he will not find better than me. Prove to mom that she was wrong. How to find a person who will love unconditionally. How not to disappoint people. Am I a good mother? A whole life is often built around the solution of the chosen problem, and the number of actions in it is limited only by death. Criticizing, rejecting, indifferent, devaluing people are necessary according to the condition of the problem, without them the solution is impossible. Without them, the fundamental life request loses its meaning. Why show, prove, convince something to someone who knows how to be critical of what is happening, does not doubt his value? In some moments, doubts may arise about certain elections, but globally this does not change self-attitude. I'm a good mother. I cannot disappoint people, because charm and disappointment are processes that concern another person, I do not control them. I do not need to be loved unconditionally, if only because I myself am not able to unconditionally love and accept everything and everyone. Mom was right. I'm right too. It's just that each of us has our own truth. And it is not necessary to be proud of me, because each of us has his own scale for measuring achievements. Some tasks should remain unresolved, if only because they are based not on self-love, but on the fear of being rejected by others, the fear of making a mistake. And then, it is important: 1. Asks himself - what is the main problem I am trying to solve most of my life? 2. Am I doing this out of love, or out of fear? 3. What should I do if this problem no longer needs to be solved?
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