Can I Have A Break ?! Where Is The End Of Fatigue On The Way To The Goal And How To Survive In The Frantic Race Of Life

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Have you ever had a feeling of endless fatigue, when you don't have enough strength for anything and the only thing you want is to lie down and do nothing so that nothing bothers you and finally just take a break from the crazy race? A race that lasts for years, when you feel like on a roller coaster, you just finished all your business and you need to run again and do something. Such a vicious circle repeats itself over and over again and its end is not visible, and this is damn exhausting and you, as if you have squeezed out fruit and no more strength left.

Perhaps the reason is very simple, you are convinced that you are giving too little, that you need to push a little more and then you will definitely achieve everything you want. And such a cycle continues indefinitely, only you were able to cope with one difficulty, as a new one looms on the horizon.

But bad luck, each time achieving what you want, your goal shifts further and you need to hold out a little more. After all, you were told all the time that you could have done better. So you come home from school with an A and your parents say that it’s good, but it could have been better, because Katya was able to get an A, he didn’t teach me enough, you need to be more responsible and serious. Or do you take third place in a sports Olympiad and the coach says that all you had to do was not to be lazy, but to train additionally and could take first place, but that guy did his best and rightfully took his prize.

And the society itself is shouting with might and main that if you have not achieved success, then it means that you have tried little. This idea is especially popular in various trainings for success, leadership, motivation and is often found in articles on how to achieve what you want. You are cited as examples of many successful people who have achieved unprecedented status, tell stories of success, and so on. Of course, it is extremely rare to achieve something meaningful without effort, and only if luck smiles on you.

But what they never talk about is those stories when people devoted all their efforts to make their dreams come true and they did not succeed at all. But in fact, there are most of such stories, they just are not at all interesting. As a result, it seems that all failures are connected exclusively with your own activity, that everything depends only on you and on nothing else. As if, if you bang your head against a wall, sooner or later the wall will break. And the worst thing is that the attitude “if I want this, then it will happen” appears. Wonderful illusions that allow you to create a feeling of omnipotence and the fact that you are able to control everything and everyone.

What is more important to you, success in the eyes of others or your own happiness? The fact is that success and happiness are two completely different things, but society increasingly identifies one with the other, popularizes fame, money, universal admiration as the ultimate good. Let's say you work as a gardener and this is your favorite pastime, you feel happy spending your days in the garden and caring for plants, you feel peace and tranquility. Would you trade your best job in the world for success and fame in an advanced company without feeling satisfied?

It is important to understand where your own desires are, and where are imposed ones. As the main character said in one of Palahniuk's books: "I no longer understand the difference between what I want and what I was trained to want."

Whether you achieve the desired goals depends on a huge number of factors over which you are powerless and you cannot control them. Moreover, there are still your powers, which, alas, are not infinite. And when everything collapses and there is failure after failure, when there is no more strength, and all you need is rest, society proudly calls it "laziness."

After all, “you can't” does not happen, there is only “you don’t want to”. Add to this the constant monitoring of social networks, in which everything is idealized, glossy and impeccable. And voila, it seems that everyone succeeds, and only you are unable to break through the granite barriers of failure. As a result, we have depression, depression, apathy. Your thinking is shaped in such a way that no amount of success gives you a feeling of satisfaction and you need to earn the opportunity to relax from yourself.

Now let's look at how you can get rid of the constant feeling of fatigue without compromising performance

D To begin with, rethink that your successes and failures do not define you as a person, you already are, regardless of the list of achievements. Failure to succeed does not make you bad. Suppose you are playing chess with an opponent who loses to you all the time. Will you become a more experienced player in this situation? To hone your skills, you should play with someone who beats you, so you can get the necessary experience and develop. It is important to understand that your failure is a way to gain the necessary knowledge and an opportunity to grow, not an indication that you have not tried. Try to re-evaluate events from this perspective and evaluate gains, not deprivations.

When your activity drops, allow yourself to take a break. Assess adequately your strengths and capabilities in order to evenly distribute the load. Having a good rest, you will be able to perform work more efficiently and efficiently, and accordingly, the time and effort will be much less. For example, you need to make a report and you sit down to do it before bed, completely tired. In this state, you will do it, say, in 4 hours, but having slept normally, and feeling cheerful, you will make a report in an hour, and even better. Alternate periods of activity and rest to stay productive.

Break your goals down into milestones. This will make you feel satisfied after every mark you reach, no matter how far away the end goal is. Each subsequent stage will be within sight and really feasible. Otherwise, you run the risk of meeting with despair and paralysis in front of the unattainability of the task.

It is also important to objectively assess the reasons for failure and not take everything personally. To refuse magical omnipotence and the idea that everything can be controlled is painful and unpleasant, it means admitting your own helplessness in the face of life's circumstances. But it is much more difficult to be disappointed every time reality collides with a fantasy that is not in favor of the latter, and to take this burden on your shoulders.

If you are result-oriented in your activity, then until the final goal is achieved, you will not be able to rest or enjoy the process itself. This leads to exhaustion and the work becomes a tiring routine. In the long term, however, it is more fruitful to focus on the processwhen you enjoy what you are doing and the activity itself is an end in itself. Thus, you are much less frustrated and you are not afraid of obstacles.

Develop your own style that will be comfortable and effective for you. There will always be those who are better than you and who have achieved more, you should not compare your successes, each person is a separate and unique person, with his own experience and skills. Analyze, study, but in no case evaluate other people's achievements as proof of your insolvency. Go your own way towards those goals that are important not to those around you, but to you. Failures are inevitable along the way, but don't think of them as obstacles, do your best and enjoy the process, not just the achievements.