2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Today, more and more hateful cries are poured into the address of psychologists, coaches who conduct group trainings, be it for personal growth or for women - for emancipation or with children. And okay, if with humor, playfully - anti-advertising, it would seem, is also advertising.
The last straw for me, as the leader of women's groups for working with women in crisis, was an article on the Psyhologies website titled “Why I'm Smart and I Live Like a Fool: The Whole Truth About Women's Training”. It would seem that the information there is quite accessible to itself for perception and even explained why certain groups of women allegedly should not attend such trainings, but a lot has been said about the fact that this is a) an expensive service, b) intoxicates, dizzy, allows lose your mind, c) ineffective.
Well, if the psychotherapist, sexologist, the author of this article really thinks that group work is ineffective, then perhaps this is so for her personally.
I remember how two years ago I myself was trained in group work with women in a crisis situation. I confess, I went to study more because I wanted to see St. Petersburg live, and summer training, plus, it seems, a topic quite close to my specifics made my dream come true.
So, of course, all the methods of work, which I have been using for two years with my own remarks in women's groups, during the training process, we, a group of women psychologists, "tried" on ourselves and honestly - I do not regret at all that this format of therapeutic work has taken place. Out of three days of training, two of the entire group “roared” and worked hard. We pulled out of ourselves as much as probably each of us hasn’t pulled out in years! Insight happened and therapy happened. Hooray!
It was at that moment that I "abruptly" changed my attitude towards groups, not only as a potential presenter, but also as a future participant, if given the opportunity.
What really shouldn't be forgotten?
- Yes, a group is a job. Sweat and wear and tear. The most difficult work is always work on oneself, since our personality, undergoing changes and work, partially comes to the loss of some personal characteristics, in fact, a partial loss of oneself. That is why loss is often a painful process that requires the supervision of a psychologist.
- Yes, this does not suit everyone. Turning the soul inside out in the presence of other people is a rather difficult task, but, as a rule, the training program is formed in such a way that the process of working on individual problems and requests would be a little later, when the group "becomes close."
- Yes, it costs money. But when I read that women take all their husband's salaries to coaches - I'm sorry, but I really find it funny. Group trainings cost a certain amount of money, but no more than what each of us spends on clothes, shoes, food …
- Yes, there is a certain atmosphere in the trainings. And the point here is not in fragrant sticks that scent the room (in general, whoever writes about this is just interested), and not at all in the music that plays in the background - for God's sake, turn it on at home for your pleasure, since it works like that. The atmosphere is created by a high degree of trust and the quality of the services provided by the trainer.
- Yes, there are many charlatans. Believe me, there are no more of them than in any (without exception) other profession. If the client is promised a 100% result (when the client's request is not even known, that is, what he wants), this means that they are trying to sell you training of dubious quality. Therefore, something like "how to become a Goddess?" But, surprisingly, the flashy names do their job and they run to the charlatans in droves. The banal ones: “working with trauma” or “Saying goodbye to anxiety” do not “catch on” to anyone, although, of course, they are created not by marketing geniuses, but by masters of their psychological craft.
In general, whether or not to go to group trainings is everyone's business. It is important to understand what a person wants to receive as a result of attending such events. Become a Goddess? Really "hook up" a millionaire or learn to live in harmony with yourself and your capabilities? Further, we separate dreams from reality and boldly choose the training to our liking.
I will not deliberately touch upon the topic of business coaches, master trainers on how to make a million - for sure there are experts in this area. Let them themselves dismiss the colossal onslaught of the media on the work of psychologists …
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