2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Thinking out loud…
I just wanted to share one of the options why people change their orientation … a lot of hypotheses are spinning in my head, but this one seems to me to be defining.
And the roots of this hypothesis originate from the past centuries, in which the woman was deprived of many rights. Remember that the woman's place was in the kitchen by the stove. She also took care of the house, husband and children.
The man had a role to play in that life. He was a breadwinner in the family. He must be strong, courageous and firm in his decisions. Often, this toughness turned into cruelty and despotism, which led to an authoritarian parenting style.
A woman in the depths of her soul was indignant at such a behavior of her man, but the obedience, humility and obedience brought up in her (after all, a real woman should be like that) did not give her the opportunity to rebel against such disenfranchised behavior. Moreover, access to all the benefits of the universe also lay through the men's wallet. Power and money at that time belonged to men. But, that was in the past …
The world has changed. The woman, who for many centuries endured her powerlessness, finally rebelled, and boldly began to defend her right to life and her opinion. How did this affect orientation, you ask? From my point of view, everything is very logical and logical. I share …
Man is bisexual by nature. We know that in each of us there is the presence of both masculine and feminine principles. The masculine is about strength, logic, decision making, etc., while the feminine is about feelings, emotions, patience, compassion, etc. Men were forbidden to feel and be emotional, and women were forbidden to make decisions and be bossy. Well, as an example. In our time, men have become more sensitive, and women are more powerful. But women, in my opinion, even felt omnipotent, which is not true … but few people think about this issue.
“To be a woman is destiny” said S. Freud. Women in our time have become more liberated, they have more opportunities to be an autonomous and creative person. Right now, we can more often meet men cleaning the house, cooking, sitting on maternity leave with their children or often complaining about life and the inability to realize themselves.
One extreme has replaced the other. Although in balance, the right to take care of children and conduct a family life, as well as replenish the family's budget, belongs to partners equally.
But who thinks about it? Beliefs and frameworks received from female predecessors, together with generic and family scenarios, prescribe a woman a feeling of basic insecurity, in the manifestation of her desire or response to a man's desire. These inner limitations make the woman suffer from anxiety, because her true needs are denied and not understood. A woman closes in on dissatisfaction with her female destiny, which entails an inability to enjoy the love that men give her.
Instead, most women invest all their love in their sons, allowing them to be weak, lazy, weak-willed and obeying only her, while ignoring their daughters, in turn giving them the message to be strong, purposeful and strong-willed. Often women use their bodies and sex to manipulate their needs, becoming tough and strong-willed, competing with the man for power in the family. Hence the confusion of roles, lack of mutual understanding and clear agreements among themselves, which creates in children a sense of insecurity, hopelessness and a desire to resist what parents broadcast.
Ideally, with an agreed distribution of roles and responsibilities in the family, a child at the age of three already understands clearly who he is a boy or a girl, and he does not need to think about it in adolescence. But, the inability of parents to communicate and build relationships with each other, confusion of roles, often pushes adolescents in puberty to find solace in the arms of partners of the same sex, who more understands and more sympathizes with their problems. The mother's inability to separate her son or daughter from herself, from my point of view, also influences the change of orientation. It is also interesting that a son's living with his mother after he turns 21 and excessive closeness with her forms more feminine qualities in the son, and if a daughter lives with her, then she is developing more masculine qualities.
I think in order to achieve a balance in this matter, we need to visit the pole, where a woman reigns, and wait until she gets tired of playing roles both for herself and for that guy, being both a father and mother to her children. She will remember that she is also a daughter herself, a woman, a person and a part of the universe, finally. Hope it happens very soon. What do you think about the reasons for the change in sexual orientation?
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