2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Resentment, insidious feeling. Whoever is familiar with this feeling knows that once having appeared in the heart, the offense remains there for a long time or forever. And as water wears away a stone, so resentment gradually destroys a person's life.
When my clients research resentment, they find that:
- Resentment, a very strong feeling. Akin to anger. It is similar in sensations to anger: breathing quickens, there is a feeling that there is not enough air, "throws in heat", sweat appears, the body becomes stiff.
- Behind the resentment there is always anger or anger at someone or something. "I got mad at him for forgetting to buy the medicine!" But you can't be angry for a long time. Therefore, anger is transformed into resentment, a feeling that can exist for a long time or forever.
- Resentment, very "comfortable" feeling! It allows you to be in a relationship with those with whom in essence there is no relationship. Very often my clients take offense at ex-husbands and partners.
- Resentment, a feeling that "allows" a woman to demand from her partner a better attitude towards her, money, help and other benefits.
The algorithm here is: "I am offended by your behavior" >> "I can demand from you what I am ashamed to ask in a normal state" >> "You do it for me because you feel guilty or ashamed" >> "I get what I want to get from you instead of learning to produce it myself."
When a woman sees what is behind the offense, she realizes that the offense is a "crutch" with which she is used to "moving" in life. And let this movement be interspersed with lameness and it is uncomfortable to walk with a crutch. But this definitely has its own "charm".
I ask my clients who are offended to answer the question "What will happen in your life if you stop being offended?" Their answers are "eye-opening"!
If I stop resenting you, then:
- You will have to rely on yourself and your strength. And you will also have to take responsibility for your own failures.
- I will need to learn to deal with money in an adult way and not rely on your money.
- I will finally have to put an end to our long-ended relationship. And look towards other men.
- Start living your life, throwing out the "crutch" of resentment and learn to rely on yourself!"
"E If I stop resenting him, I will have to become an adult! "
Great prospect, isn't it ?!
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