If I Stop Resenting You

Video: If I Stop Resenting You

Video: If I Stop Resenting You
Video: How To Stop Feeling Resentment & Disappointment In Your Relationship 2024, March
If I Stop Resenting You
If I Stop Resenting You
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Resentment, insidious feeling. Whoever is familiar with this feeling knows that once having appeared in the heart, the offense remains there for a long time or forever. And as water wears away a stone, so resentment gradually destroys a person's life.

When my clients research resentment, they find that:

  1. Resentment, a very strong feeling. Akin to anger. It is similar in sensations to anger: breathing quickens, there is a feeling that there is not enough air, "throws in heat", sweat appears, the body becomes stiff.
  2. Behind the resentment there is always anger or anger at someone or something. "I got mad at him for forgetting to buy the medicine!" But you can't be angry for a long time. Therefore, anger is transformed into resentment, a feeling that can exist for a long time or forever.
  3. Resentment, very "comfortable" feeling! It allows you to be in a relationship with those with whom in essence there is no relationship. Very often my clients take offense at ex-husbands and partners.
  4. Resentment, a feeling that "allows" a woman to demand from her partner a better attitude towards her, money, help and other benefits.

The algorithm here is: "I am offended by your behavior" >> "I can demand from you what I am ashamed to ask in a normal state" >> "You do it for me because you feel guilty or ashamed" >> "I get what I want to get from you instead of learning to produce it myself."

When a woman sees what is behind the offense, she realizes that the offense is a "crutch" with which she is used to "moving" in life. And let this movement be interspersed with lameness and it is uncomfortable to walk with a crutch. But this definitely has its own "charm".

I ask my clients who are offended to answer the question "What will happen in your life if you stop being offended?" Their answers are "eye-opening"!

If I stop resenting you, then:

  • You will have to rely on yourself and your strength. And you will also have to take responsibility for your own failures.
  • I will need to learn to deal with money in an adult way and not rely on your money.
  • I will finally have to put an end to our long-ended relationship. And look towards other men.
  • Start living your life, throwing out the "crutch" of resentment and learn to rely on yourself!"

"E If I stop resenting him, I will have to become an adult! "

Great prospect, isn't it ?!

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