2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
When I was a child, the idea of increasing height by hanging on a horizontal bar was popular among my fellow boys. I don't know whether they grew up or not, but they looked very funny during this procedure. Today, many people, embraced by the idea of personal growth, also hang on all kinds of "horizontal bars". And there is nothing funny about it. This is an unpleasant sight, like a dream of my client (published with the consent of the client), in which she caught up with her “ideological mastermind” walking a few steps ahead of her to ask if he would come to her funeral. When the maestro turned, she saw the rotten face of a dead man.
Every weekend my client spent in a “growing” environment, where self-development is equated with success and a prosperous life. Psychotherapy in the girl's life appeared as another way of growth and self-development. The work was not easy, since the client did not understand much of what was happening and did not seem to try to do it. However, the time has come when a conflict arose between the weekend of personal growth training and everyday psychotherapy. Then there were dreams, similar to the one I gave above, and questions asked about the human, and confusion. Voice, look and step became "softer". One Saturday my client woke up to attend another "turnstile" event. But I felt weakness and trembling in my body and could not bring myself to leave the house.
The girl "fell into bed", by the evening her temperature rose to 39 degrees. After taking an aspirin, she fell asleep. In the morning she woke up at seven in the morning, which was not typical for her (early awakenings from the words of the client were always a real torment). There was a "pleasant" weakness in the body, which within an hour gave way to good health and energy. Until 12 o'clock, the girl carefully cleaned the apartment, then went to the supermarket, returned home, cooked food, went to visit her parents, in the evening she met with a friend. “Such a long day, usually my days are shorter,” the client said.
For this girl, growth today is on a par with betrayal, stagnation, and danger. Over time, the category of growth, I am convinced, will lead a neighborhood with other concepts. But it is no longer artificial growth, not development for the sake of development.
The client examines the symbolic imaginal cards, asks: "Why is there an owl, but no nightingale?" I ask: "Why a nightingale?" He wants to say something and starts crying. He just looks at me and cries. The eyes ask: "Do you understand me?" I silently answer: "Yes".
Here are the words of Renata Salezl:
"All these gurus, personal growth coaches and the like are new authorities. They teach people how to make the right choice. Even the very rich have such advisors, they give advice in any area: how to dress, how to build a successful strategy, how to equip my office in feng shui. My idea is that people, already frightened by the need to choose and even more frightened because of the dominant ideology, begin to look for authorities. In a situation of fear, it is much easier to turn to authorities: religious gurus, for example, or other in psychoanalysis, this also tells us that a person has a psychotic structure - we see people follow all kinds of "teachers" because they look like people without a doubt, confident that what are they doing."
Today my client is attracted to boudoir, buying beautiful underwear and other "necessities" coming from her "gut", and not prescribed by personal growth trainers. And she is also waiting for spring and the first dew that has fallen, and the nightingale's singing …
Spring, dew and the nightingale's singing so captivated the girl that she found many beautiful legends about the nightingale and brought them to me. Since my article is of an educational nature, I have chosen, perhaps, not the most beautiful of them, but instructive.
Looking at the "guru" hanging you on the horizontal bar, remember the legend that says the following.
The hunter released the nightingale he caught. Flying away, the nightingale shouted to the hunter that he had lost a valuable treasure by releasing him, since he had a pearl inside him larger than an ostrich egg. The hunter wanted to lure the nightingale again, but he only clicked back at him how stupid he was: "You really believed that I had more pearl inside of an ostrich egg, but I myself am less than such an egg!"
