2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
From the author: Published with the consent of the client
I had a client, a young, 27-year-old woman, a candidate of sciences. Very shy, shy, anxious and extremely careful in interpersonal contacts. Tied to her parents, she tried to live an independent life without them, but she did not really succeed, she tried to spend the weekend at her parents' house. With men, contacts were exclusively friendly in nature, with women since her school years, she was not friends, her only friend from the university left to live in another country. If you observe a woman from the outside, you might get the impression of her extremely low self-esteem, but if self-esteem was lowered, then it was uncritical. Along with this, as I have already indicated, the client was timid, shy in contacts and anxious. I had the impression of the client's total chastity, unwillingness to accept not the most pleasant, from the point of view of harsh righteous views, sides of human existence. Ongoing therapy has confirmed this. Over time, the client herself began to talk about her fantasies about the vile manifestations of the human body. Sometimes she imagined that a bystander would defecate, sometimes that someone would see her during a bowel movement, or that the beautiful actress with whom she was fascinated was giving off fetid gases.
The therapy with the client lasted seven months until she slipped on a tile in the bathroom, suffered a concussion and several fractures, as a result of which an operation and a rather long rehabilitation were required.
The therapy resumed via Skype when the woman returned home after the operation. A recently operated woman on sick leave and unable to perform some basic self-care activities looked different than when her health was all right. This was manifested in the manner of her conversation, facial expressions and expression in her eyes. Before me was an active woman full of spiritual strength. The severe trauma seemed to have transformed her squeamish and frightened inner world. The impressions of the observed transformation gave rise to the assumption that the inner world shuddered at the thought of what a miserable life full of far-fetched fears it drags out. That life is beautiful and very fragile. But these are only the first thoughts that came to mind, which, as it turned out, were not true. Further therapy with the woman, who moved faster, bolder and more active in every sense, confirmed that the woman had become much less chaste than she was before the injury and hospitalization. What happened? The answer "Reassessing your values and your life" seemed far-fetched.
The bodily top in a person's life gives him much less anxiety and tension than his bodily bottom. Riding is easier to master by throwing the controlling reins of government over it, the bottom is wayward and more tyrannical. The animal bottom is uncontrollable and does not accept the theater of masks. Being "broken", my client became her whole body, imperfect traumatized flesh, returning to the bosom of Mother Nature. The ordeal of trauma literally chained her to the once rejected fetid bodily bottom, brought her to the body and limited her to purely physical aspects. The choices for mental life were probably: "Die or be reborn." We both celebrated an obvious Renaissance. Falling naked in the bathroom, injuries, pain, hospitalization, surgery, servicing the physiological needs of strangers - all this plunged her brilliant Ego into a natural swamp of decay. Natura naturans absorbed natura naturata, becoming her best therapist.
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