Who Decides What I Think?

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Who Decides What I Think?
Who Decides What I Think?
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Who decides what I think?

Who is at the helm or help yourself

It so happens that in the sparkling cycle of days, we catch ourselves thinking:

That we cannot collect our thoughts

Feeling of loss of control

That everything seems to be according to the planned plan, but as if it is not right

I seem to know almost everything that is necessary in an important issue for myself, but it does not work to change the situation

Let's figure it out! Those points that are indicated above are clearly not considered for the first time. They sounded in the context of parenting and childbirth programs, ineffective habits, coaching, and a host of other variations. I invite you to consider a few more intriguing twists and turns.

In 1963, a curious social experiment was carried out in the United States. The newspaper advertised a study on the effect of pain on memory and memory processes. The participants were promised good monetary rewards. During the experiment, the teacher (volunteer on the ad) had to read out a series of words to the student (dummy actor). The student had to repeat the words, if he forgot something, then the teacher had to give a shock to the student (each time the strength of the shock increased). The process was controlled by an experimenter who instructed the teacher to continue and not stop. Even when a student begged to stop the course of the study, and the level of current strength objectively exceeded the line safe for life, the teacher did not stop. All his doubts and hesitations were suppressed by the experimenter, and the "execution" continued.

It was no coincidence that the idea of such a study came to S. Milgrem's head. He was the child of Jewish immigrants from Eastern Europe, some of his relatives went through concentration camps. He assumed that the people of Germany were more prone to submission. That allowed, even yesterday, ordinary citizens to do many terrible things on orders from above. As a result, he realized that nationality did not matter, and canceled the further continuation of research in Europe. Another important conclusion for you and me, which was revealed to Milgram, is that each of us has a colossal influence on authority, significant or status persons.

We live in the information age. Books, articles, media, internet, youtube, video hosting and online magazines can be listed for a very long time. Tons of megabytes on any topic destroy categories such as the continuity of knowledge, the transfer of experience accumulated by generations, as well as communication between us. When something happens to you, then you, most likely, "google" how to resolve this situation, rather than turn to family or friends, to a specialist, in the end. Here we put our perception on the bandwagon. There is the Dunning-Kruger effect. Its paradox lies in the fact that people who are not versed in the topic under consideration, due to the low level of knowledge, cannot realize their mistakes. Further, the mechanism spins up, there is a feeling of complete understanding of the issue, a caring subconscious mind throws into memory situations that, one way or another, confirm this information and voila! We become completely confident that we understand what is the matter, why and how we should be with this something.

Here the question already arises not only to the sources of information, but also to how we perceive it. Agree that what we read in published form (it doesn't matter if it's an online publication or a book in your hands) or we watch, say, a documentary film or news, in the first moments and some time after (or maybe in general) we do not criticize, but takes it for true information (works of art and other fiction for entertainment for the sake of, does not count). The question of what is primary - belief in information and then we begin to understand and realize it, or we first analyze and understand, and then we begin to believe, was asked 400 years ago by two philosophers. Descartes believed in the primacy of understanding and the further choice to believe or not, while Spinoza believed that the very act of understanding is faith, which does not exclude the possibility of changing his mind, but this will happen later. That is, it turns out that our first reaction to the incoming information will be faith in it. If the information that we read to see and hear is not completely absurd, and, moreover, will be consonant with our worldview, then we will take it for granted, without criticism.

Let's summarize everything. So, we all tend to:

Trust authorities, sometimes even blindly

To take for pure what looks or sounds like some kind of folding theory, or the source seems to us reliable (see the previous point)

Our perception is arranged in such a way that in the first moment we tend to take information on trust, and it is not necessary that then we revise it

· At the present time, we are surrounded by sources of information with many tips, recipes and guides, the amount of which can simply drown. Also, the minus of such resources is that they are impersonal, averaged and built taking into account general principles, without individual characteristics.

Now take a look at the points that are highlighted at the very beginning. Often, they are a consequence of the fact that we follow false ideals, ready-made products of thinking and simply assimilate what does not suit us, but helped someone. We get stuck in stereotypes, for example, if you try, everything will work out. In a family with such a stereotype, a child with dyslexia (selective violation of the ability to master reading and writing skills while maintaining a general ability to learn) may be mistaken for a lazy fool, but does not try. Or popular, if a man does not earn so much, then you should not even start a conversation with him. The same is about the appearance of girls and the corresponding reaction of men to them. In the first case, you can hide behind the desire of women to create a family in comfort and raise offspring. In the second, the desire of men to have healthy and beautiful offspring. And in general, you can add a lot more for both examples, but often these thoughts and attitudes are brought in from the outside, and are not realized, but there is dissatisfaction with life. But what if she loves, then … here you can substitute everyone, starting with parents, husbands, children, and even a pet and the president of the country, who is also obliged to love her!

We want to explain to ourselves how everything in the world works, why certain events occur, what are the connections between them, and even more so in topics related to human relationships. We want this in order to behave more correctly and more successfully, to make plans and assume results, to negotiate and get along in pleasure. Our brain, after all, is designed in such a way that everything is trying to systematize! This is how it works.

Know your own and universal human characteristics, get to know and discover yourself, often ask yourself questions like you do this or that, love yourself. And when something does not work out, and the circle closes, then do not be afraid to come to a psychologist to figure out what is yours and what is someone else's.

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