2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
The role of play in the lives of children and adults.
Do you remember how you played as a child? And what? What was your favorite game?
Did you know that your hide-and-seek-hide-and-seek-spots had a psychotherapeutic effect? And did the repetitive games invented by you personally allow you to be filled with something missing (love, care, a sense of strength, need, etc.)?
How do you feel about your children's games now? Why does a child need a game?
Probably, the children themselves would say it best. So I will use a quote from one boy: "Play is what I do when no one tells me what to do."
Play is child's work. The activity of an infant throwing out a freshly lifted bottle and playing "mom-dad" of a preschooler is an activity where there is a place for random discoveries and transformations. The territory on which the process of cognition and change of the world takes place, the acquisition of new skills. A place where the child manifests himself entirely, in his uniqueness and spontaneity.
Live play is always accompanied by joy, enthusiasm, awakens initiative and activity, and promotes the expression of feelings. Improvisation, solving interesting problems and finding new ways - qualities necessary in adult activity - are not trained by training, they are formed during the game.
Why do children play?
The baby does not play on its own. And yet he needs to play as much as he needs food and care. Through bodily games ("Magpie-crow" "Over the Bumps"), nursery rhymes, the mother helps the baby to feel and emotionally live different parts of the body in live contact with her hands. This helps the child to form the image of his bodily "I" - the basis for the development of personality. After all, the presence of a body is the criterion of the truth of "I exist."
From about 6 months, the child begins to touch, shake, throw objects. "The moving hand always teaches the eye at first." This is how the ability to distinguish an object from the general mass is formed, to perceive it as something separate. This allows you to successfully navigate in the space of the outside world.
At 1-2 years old, he runs, climbs, climbs. Constantly on the move. Empirically discovers the parameters of the external world. Resides the distance between objects, their size, shape, weight. And at the same time he learns the parameters of his own body, their unity and constancy - he continues to form the image of his own body, started by the mother in infancy.
At the age of 2-3, he enthusiastically builds and begins to paint.
Builds from sand, cubes, pots. Breaks down and builds again. Thus, his ideas about the world order are manifested. An understanding of how the world works, achieved by one's own mind, is being formed.
Draws dots, scribbles, scribbles. Discovers the ability to purposefully leave footprints in the world. Finding the edges of the sheet, ceasing to go beyond its limits, he sees the border of the situation. A little later, by the age of three, he opens a symbolic function - the "zakarlyuka" can be a car, the sun, or a mother. By the age of four, it opens up and down in space.
At the same time, in 2-3 years a new ability appears: “doubling the world”. Those. fantasize - imagine images in your imagination. Most significant items become heroes of events. This is reflected in the game. This ability gives a sense of strength, mastery of the situation.
After three years, a role-playing game appears. Scene acting out, roles emerging. There is an opportunity to process your experiences, transform your world. There is a need for the participation of another, communication skills are formed, the adoption of certain rules.
Children play spontaneously if not disturbed. They just follow their developmental program. And to this day, no better way has been invented for the development of intelligence and the formation of character.
Why do psychotherapists play with children?
In addition to benefits in the development of a child, play has great healing potential. It is also called the "royal" road to children.
Firstly, for a child it is his "native" understandable language.
Secondly, play brings tension and pleasure, reveals spontaneity and activity, and this fuels the child's interest.
Thirdly, play is always connected with the child's psychic reality - the way he sees this world. And it helps to learn a lot about the child. What matters is the child's attitude to play, the choice of toys or objects for play, whether there are roles, how the characters communicate, what the game is about, etc. This provides information about the phase of development of the child himself, his relationship with others, what experiences and feelings his world is filled with.
Fourthly, simultaneously with the depiction of reality in play, children change it, find a way out of the current situation. The game is focused not on a problem, but on a solution!
Therapeutic games are different.
Some of the children need games from the infancy to complete the missing base.
For some, outdoor games are more useful, the purpose of which is to remove excess inhibition, stiffness and fear.
Someone needs an RPG to solve a specific problem or overcome a symptom.
The therapist, by offering, showing and encouraging to play, gives the child the opportunity to use tools for self-regulation and mental recovery.
Why should parents play with children?
First, it's fun.
Secondly, "improvisation, solving interesting problems and finding new ways - qualities necessary in adult activity - are not trained by training, they are formed during the game." Are you sure you don't need this?
Third, spending time together in an emotionally pleasant atmosphere is a good resource for relationships.
Fourthly, joint play allows you to better understand each other, learn new interaction.
Fifth, different feelings can be expressed and lived in the game. After all, mom in the role of an angry cat is not as scary as just an angry mom?
And sixthly: it is important for a child to be noticed and approved in his play and pleasure! It's about accepting his accomplishments.
Adults who have the opportunity to play enough in childhood can:
- get more pleasure from the sensations of the body (as a result of bodily games with the baby, receptors are developed that are responsible for pleasant sensations);
- creatively adapt to the situation and creatively solve the assigned tasks;
- to experience greater satisfaction in a relationship (sex games in a couple help maintain harmony in a relationship);
- to better understand and interact with their own children.
It turns out that play is a simple, safe, and effective tool for development, healing, relationship improvement, and enjoyment!
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