Childish Emotions Of Fear

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Children's feelings and emotions are fundamentally different from the feelings and emotions of an adult. If a child is sad, then he cries a lot, if he is happy, he jumps, laughs cheerfully, plays. This is the beauty that children know how to be real. We, adults, no longer know how to do this, and if we can, then we try to behave as we should, as beautifully, as is customary. Over time, without noticing it, adults try to extinguish the child's emotions, as if accustoming him to adult life. "Swallowing" emotions is very harmful to the human psyche, and doubly the child's psyche. Any emotion must be lived through all stages: from birth to extinction.

There is practically no child who is not visited by night fears. Most often, this is a passing phenomenon due to the age range of the child's development. But often, thanks to the parents, the child's fears develop into ingrained complexes that will interfere with the adult's life in the future. Parents want to cheer up their baby and say: "Well, you are big, you are already 6 years old, don't you need to be afraid?" But this not only does not help the child, but drives him even more into a dead end. He thinks that these fears are only with him, that he is badly unable to cope with them. Thus, his fears only multiply, and the child's self-esteem drops sharply.

There are many reasons for the appearance of fears. Difficult relationships between parents, who naively believe that the child does not participate in their quarrels if he is not around. But the baby very subtly feels the mood of mom or dad, reflects it, broadcasts it through his behavior. Inconsistency in upbringing: mom allows, dad forbids. An abundance of information: aggressive cartoons, accidentally seen news on television, and often the Internet. Unresolved conflicts with peers, in the kindergarten, on the playground and with the parents themselves. Not a steady daily routine, this is also one of the reasons for the appearance of fears.

The first step in helping a child is to accept and discover their fears. Identify them and, together with the baby, try to get rid of them. Sometimes a personal example of a parent is enough for this. You can talk about what you yourself were afraid of as a child. The more colorful and believable your memories are, the easier it will be for the child to realize that he is not alone in his problem. After you have identified the "invisible" enemy, you need to develop a strategy for fighting. If this is some kind of creature, then you can come up with a funny name for him, draw him, and then add funny elements to him: horns, antennae, hat. Those. remove the negative coloring from it. The child himself will help you with this, as soon as you support him, he will maximally show his imagination. You can mold it from plasticine, sew it from the remnants of pieces of unnecessary material. Perhaps the child will want to destroy, break, tear, throw out. Do not let this bother you, so the baby copes and gets rid of his fears.

Well, and most importantly, you just need to be with your child always and everywhere, to experience the impressions received from the cartoon, from a walk or from a new toy. Only in this case your love, care, attentiveness and support will return to you a hundredfold in the form of a healthy, harmonious and comprehensively developed child!

To be continued…