2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Remember Bree on Desperate Housewives? Refined appearance, exemplary demeanor and emotional icing. One day she finds out in surprise that she herself suffers from such ideal coldness and does not understand her, the family does not appreciate it.
And in real life, many are not used to giving vent to emotions. From childhood we were told: men don't cry; the girl must be obedient; do not rejoice, otherwise you will cry. The result of prohibitions is that a person does not allow himself to experience feelings, suppresses them.
The intensity of emotions can be roughly measured on a scale. Degrees from 1 to 10.
Bottom line, 1-2 - blandness, indifference or apathy. A person is not interesting to himself and others.
8-10 - emotional stress. Often there is some need behind such a degree of anger, irritability. It needs to be identified, satisfied, and the intensity will immediately go down. For example, a person gets angry when they don't know how to solve a problem. Finds a way - dissatisfaction disappears.
Above 10 points - loss of control. For example, during a fire, the fear of burning out forces you to jump out of the window, love over 10 - torment yourself and your chosen one.
Comfortable state - from 3 to 7.
All emotions are valuable and useful. It is important to experience and manifest them.
Even anger can be poured out into activities where you need to achieve, accomplish. Often the best achievers are angry people who can direct aggression in the right direction.
It is impossible to suppress emotions. The stronger the containment, the more accumulate. The risk of an explosion is growing. It breaks inside - psychosomatics will appear. Outward - a breakdown on others, without control of words and deeds.
In my subjective opinion, more than half of people do not understand how one can feel. Another part - they muffle emotions. And only a small percentage live on the middle scale.
Bree is a prime example of a person who has suppressed emotions and lives an imposed or imaginary life.
Often the meaning of psychotherapy is to reveal sensitivity, learn to recognize and show emotions, get to know yourself in the present, with your desires and needs.
And what movie heroes amazed you with their “icy” attitude?
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