7 Qualities Of A Successful Person, Or Where Did Your Luck Hide?

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

But for some time now I began to notice that the word "lucky" is a dangerous thing. Many people use it in a completely different sense. "Lucky" they say about their own and others' successes, often obtained with such blood and sweat that you simply wonder how you can take and devalue months and years of effort. To deprive yourself of the well-deserved "I did it!"

"Stop!" - I shout when a successful businessman says that he was just lucky in life and in business, but in general he is an average person. And she wonders why things have run up against the ceiling and life has somehow stalled and does not bring joy.

When such a person comes to me for a consultation or a group, we often begin to sort out his "luck" on the shelves. Why is it important? When you begin to understand and appreciate what is in you that helped to rise to where you are now, it automatically opens up a huge resource. It turns out that you have a huge chest with tools and, most importantly, it is clear that this is not a random set of functions, but tools for work that can be used and the stock of which can be replenished all the time.

Most of the so-called "character traits" of a successful person are tools that can be acquired and honed. Those who have already achieved something in life are clearly familiar with the contents of this "chest":

1. Curiosity

Successful people are as curious as cats. Only they do not die from this, but on the contrary. And they are ready to think about any news: "What can I do about it?" I really like working with businessmen and techies - be it individual psychotherapy or training. They always start with skepticism and mistrust, take the technique apart brick by brick, they are terribly curious, they read about it, conduct experiments on themselves and others, pester me with questions … And they do! Because I wonder what happens. That is why, on average, they do it much more often.

Many of my colleagues have no respect for clients who come out of curiosity, which I love. Especially in trainings, where curiosity serves as a colossal resource and provides a real opportunity to make a breakthrough, create something new and use it.

2. Responsibility

Who is the owner of your life and the reason for all the events in it? Who owns the majority stake? Where is the control panel - inside or outside? “Lucky” people (consciously or not) believe that they are 100% responsible for their feelings, thoughts, actions, inactions and their consequences. That is, nothing happens to them, they “do” it all. They have no accidents in their lives. They are fully responsible for their lives and feel like masters of it. The world belongs to them.

Whether it is true or not, it does not matter at all, but that it is so useful to think is a fact. By the way, scientifically confirmed. Those who attribute their successes and failures to external factors are more likely to get sick, less satisfied with their lives and receive fewer "points" in the social certificate - career, business, income, creativity, and even family. With all this, they are noticeably worse than those who consider themselves the root cause of everything that happens to them. Those who are "driving" - or, in other words, on the wave of success.

These, of course, I often have to teach safety techniques. And above all, do not fall into the delirium of self-accusation. The feeling of guilt (by the way, the most unproductive of all, is more senseless except that resentment) has nothing to do with it. If a problem has arisen with your participation, then yes, you are the cause, and therefore … Ta-da-da-da-dame! You can solve it. It's nice to see how fast a person suddenly starts to move, getting rid of the burden of "always-guilty-in-everything."

3. Tenacity

Oh, this bulldog grip and tediousness. If such a person needs something from you, he will definitely not "get off" from you. You will answer his questions, connect him with the right people, help him, cursing his persistence and admiring her.

Successful people don't know the words "failed". They go to the goal with the tenacity of a rhino, which, they say, has poor eyesight, but this is no longer his problem. The most textbook example is Edison's 10,000 experiments, who made this damn light bulb shine.

Persistence, tenacity, perseverance and perseverance can be developed in yourself in only one way - always do one more attempt than you can. Like in the gym. If it seems to you that on the tenth repetition you are already "dead", gather your strength and do the eleventh. It's just one time. And then one more time and another …

I have taught this rule to many of my clients and, frankly, I consider it one of the most effective tools for a successful person.

4. Willingness to admit your mistakes

You can talk for a long time about the ability to admit your mistakes and go further - and I often and willingly do this during trainings. This is a whole art, vital both in business and in personal life and just in communication. Usually in trainings, especially for business owners, I pay a lot of attention to how to make mistakes correctly, and at the same time criticize and accept criticism. But first, there are three simple principles to learn:

• Whatever you do and whoever you are, mistakes are inevitable. All people are wrong. You are human.
• Admitting your mistake, you do not "lose face" at all, but gain respect and the ability to correct something.
• The error is the tuition fee. Study, since it has been paid anyway.

5. Ability to unite people around you

Successful people know how to gather wonderful and interesting people around them. Those who multiply their strength and inspiration. Those who are ready to help, those who know how to work and just know how to just be with you at the right time. Do not forget that we are not only what we eat, but also who we communicate with. Why? Because meaningful relationships with people allow you to combine ideas, collect feedback and support. The people around us are our like-minded people and those who can argue with us, and those who know how to love us.

Probably, the ability to attract and appreciate those with whom you will be strong and happy is one of the most important keys to success. Of course, at first glance it seems that successful people simply have charisma, so everyone is drawn to them. In general, "lucky")) But if you look closely, then usually behind this is indifference and love.

It is not harmful to ask yourself a question from time to time. How many people love you in this life? To whom and what do you give? If you suddenly complain that you are lonely, remember how much effort, time and other resources you invest in maintaining relationships with people dear and important to you. How do you know how to do it?

6. Willpower and self-discipline

It is banal, but true - willpower has been and remains a significant factor of success in creativity, love, business and in general in anything. And to be more precise - the ability to postpone pleasure and self-control. In order to soar in a creative impulse and play a sonata in a way that no one has played before you, you must first learn the notes, get your hands on boring scales and mechanically play this very sonata five hundred times. And then yes, you will have fun and you will be able to surrender to the flight of inspiration.

In order to write, do, earn, achieve, you always have to give up some pleasure that you can get right now - candy, spending money, chatting with friends, lazy morning with a book … But you never know.

Forty years have passed since the famous experiment with marshmallow marshmallows, and it is already clear: the ability or inability of children to sacrifice momentary profit at the age of four determined no less than their entire future fate. Children who managed to hold out for 15 minutes became more successful in life after forty years.

For us adults and serious people, it's not about marshmallows or lying on the couch instead of working on a new project. Most of us have already learned to work. But not to be led by a momentary emotion, not to succumb to the temptation to explode, to be offended, to commit a rash act is still much more difficult. But if you are not in control of yourself, can you be the sovereign owner of life or the same business? And most importantly, how much additional effort does it take?

7. Sense of humor

You can climb to the top of success, at least materially, and without the help of a sense of humor, but you can hardly enjoy life. A successful person who has a sense of humor and a knack for acting tends to climb higher and more fun than his serious luck counterparts. The feeling that this is “a little not real” and healthy laughter help both to aim at the incredible, and to crawl out after defeats. In general, we all have this trait, you just need to remember it more often.

With the help of play, we learn quickly and willingly in childhood. “Come on, it’s as if …”, “Imagine that we are…”. Often a person rests against the ceiling even in dreams. This happens especially often with serious people. You say to him "Well, just imagine …" and immediately you meet a protest.

Senseless fantasies? Not at all. Imagination is a very serious tool, you just need to know how to use it. To live certain situations that cannot be lived in reality, to build fantastic castles that suddenly become more and more real, to see the perspective. Children can do it. And we have to remember. And learn again.

Courageous people are engaged in their business. I am grateful to them for being my friends, training participants, clients. I learned a lot from them. Including going out "in the people", declaring oneself a professional - about this terrible word "advertising". Today I even dare to share my experience with colleagues

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