Ode To "wishlist", Or How To Please Yourself Correctly

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

We have New Years and a battery of other holidays on our nose, and everyone is running around in soap, trying to figure out what to give to whom.

Others are frantically trying to compose wishlists (from the English wishlist), while experiencing no less, if not more stress. And sometimes they are generally the same people.

Before I tell you a short but very instructive story about this, I would like to note that I personally think that it is necessary to give money if I have not found a thing in a year that "this person should have it!"

Some people think that this is wrong, you have to get confused, come up with a gift … but not everyone is endowed with the talent to pick up cool gifts (I am endowed, but sometimes it fails too) and those so-called wishlists are a great help for such cases. This is like a list of what the person being gifted would like to see as gifts in case you for some reason consider it shameful to give money. And wooooot in China, this was never considered shameful, they even have a tradition of red envelopes.

Returning to wishlists. We had an interesting conversation with one of my friends on this topic at the beginning of autumn.

Maybe it will be useful to you in some way.

The conversation began with the fact that I noticed that he was somewhat disassembled, while writing a certain wishlist. Further dialogue from the messenger is presented almost unchanged, any coincidences of names are accidental.

Me: - What kind of wishlist are you writing there?

D: - Yes on NG. To know what to give me.

Me: - And what is it that goggles you?)

D: - I don't know. But something has grown a bit xd

Me: - tell your thoughts, what exactly is goggling

- let's stream of consciousness

- obscene

D: - I just don't see the point of writing something that they won't give me anyway. That is … well, will I write this? So what? For what?

- Why is it necessary

- Enrages

Me: - give your lonely bum some cookies and tea and tell

(approx. Lonely Homeless - an archetypal subpersonality, dreams of dying under a bridge)

- why do you think that nothing will be given?

D: - Well, because I know that only I can give it all to myself. Why should I write this to others.

Me: - so what will they not give you?

D: - Well, there are such items as money for a suit (PPC, I want it, I even know where to buy it), and all kinds of clothes, even such … a beanbag chair, you know? Cool thing, you sit in it and drown) … well, stuff like that … like a comfortable chair for work, and a bunch of other things … I plan to buy them all. Just not right away.

Me: - How much money for a suit?

D: - One thousand five. Rubles.

Me: - Yeah … And what model is the chair bag?

- I mean - do you know specific models, links to sites, is that all?

- You shouldn't write clothes on the wishlist

- But a chair bag, a chair for work, and a bunch of other things - why not?

- A, "5 thousand rubles for a suit")

D: - Well, in general, yes … in general, yes!

Me not. Stop

- I ask why you think not

- After all, you can always write at the end - "Can't you do any of this? Give money!"

- So why does the wishlist infuriate you so much?)

D: - Hmm …

- Now…

- I dont know. But without him I'm calmer)

Me: - What disappears when he is not there?

- What shouldn't you worry about?

D: - I don't know. When he is I feel somehow so stupid. Like I'm writing it for someone. Thinking that there is someone (I'm not talking about a partner or you, for example, although the partner asked me, and I barely forced myself) who can give something. But this is not true. And then why write at all. Do not know. Sausage.

Me: - What sausage? Speak

D: - Nuuuu … I don't know. Perhaps this is some kind of insult. That no one gives anything to hdd, I understand that this is stupid. That is, no one is obliged to give me anything. But … but for some reason, right to tears when she asked me (or when someone else asks). I told her not to give me anything.

Me: - I, hike, messed up the voices. This is not a lonely Bum.

- This is Tanechka

(approx. Tanechka is a character, a little girl of 10-12 years old, a rebel and "correct" at the same time)

D: - Hahahha

Me: - What is it offensive to her?

D: - Because what you want will not be presented anyway. Because "you always want too much, no one is obliged to give it to you." Something like that.

Me: - Who told her that? Who scoffed, promised and did not give the promised?

D: - Well, parents … I don't remember exactly who it was. Need to think. Now…

Me: - Stories

- There are very offensive stories

- To tears

D: - I can't remember them xd some scraps.

Me: - Until the anger and rage that had to be swallowed

- Because it was terribly painful and helpless

D: - Apparently yes … I really can hardly remember anything. Just a feeling.

Me: - And it's enough. Conclusion at that moment Tanechka made.

- That you can't ask anyone for anything

- They won't give it anyway

D: - Well, yes … yes …

Me: - Either take it yourself, or shut up and endure …

D: - Yes. Exactly. You're right)

- And also like, "here, we are giving you something (what you don't need, what you don't want), why aren't you happy ?!"

Me: - Now tell me - is the wishlist a request?

D: - Nuuu…. no really. But it is perceived like this

Me: - What is it? Actually?

D: - In fact, this is just a hint for those who might want to donate something.

Me: - I would call it "List of gifts that I will definitely be glad to")

And the first would put "MONEY!"

D: - Well, finally, yes))

Me: - And then links to an armchair, a chair and what else did you want there

- What you shouldn't measure and you can't make a mistake)

D: - Okay … yes … it sounds calmer) I like it.

Me: - Everything that is not on the list is not obliged to please you)

D: - Hmm … an interesting idea.

Me: - Look how we came up with cunning)

D: - Dya)))

Me: - Everything that is not on the list - I do not have to be happy about it)

- And that's it)

- And this is no longer a wishlist

D: - Is that all? Is it that simple? hddd

Me: - This is "Manual, how to please Tanechka"

- And she is a capricious girl)

D: - Gee))) exact. Very xd

- I like))

More recently, about 3 months after this memorable conversation, a friend noticed in passing that during this time he managed to give himself half of that list.

Do you think this confirms the pointlessness of wishlists?

Absolutely not! This says that writing wishlists is useful even without showing them to anyone! Then you will imperceptibly focus your psyche on the fact that these are the things you need. And they will suddenly appear at you as if "by themselves"))

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