2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
The strength of the manipulative influence depends on how important the manipulator is for you, with what intensity it affects you, and how firm and aware your boundaries are. Only some of the signs and consequences of manipulation are collected here. Of course, there are many more of them, since each individual case of such communication could add to this list indefinitely
YOU ARE MANIPULATED IF:
- you receive ambivalent (dual) messages - the words of the manipulator speak about one thing, emotions - about another;
- you get much more attention to your person than it is appropriate in the context of communication;
- you are taken out for frank conversations or entrusted to you with something very personal, intimate, something that should remain only between you;
- you are controlled;
- they meet with you suddenly, as if by chance, accidentally bumping into exactly those places where you usually go;
- you are suddenly offended for no apparent reason;
- they suddenly confess their love to you, although this is not yet included or cannot, in principle, be included in the context of communication;
- you are presented with expensive gifts, although this is not appropriate, or for no apparent reason;
- you are asked to urgently come, cancel or change plans, lie to loved ones, refuse to communicate with someone, refuse something important to you, or perform any other similar actions that violate your personal boundaries;
- you are given ultimatums;
- they take any promises and vows from you;
- you are discredited in the eyes of your friends, colleagues, relatives, or they are discredited in your eyes;
- they convince you that you said or did something, or they try to convince you that you forgot about what happened, although you know for sure that you did not do it;
- you are accused, without explanation of what exactly, or of what you did not commit;
- you are charged with responsibility for something that has nothing to do with you, and with which you are not connected in any way;
- contact with you is abruptly interrupted, for no apparent reason, then abruptly restored; ignore, then behave as if nothing had happened;
- your feelings, actions and thoughts are devalued, or exaggerated and encouraged to the point of absurdity;
CONSEQUENCE OF WHAT:
- your emotions and feelings are ambivalent, like joy is wine; pleasure is fear; gratitude - anger; confidence is a frustration; they may not be directly opposite, but there is always a painful duality;
- your thoughts are disconnected from feelings, emotions and sensations in the body; your motives begin to contradict the beliefs you already have;
- you are prompted to actions that you would not have performed before, while you cannot track what exactly prompted you - the so-called "voice of reason", "call of the heart" and "dictates of the soul" are no longer perceptible to you, you stop hearing your intuition …
- you feel an inexplicable anxiety, you cannot understand what exactly made you worry. Your "animal" is trapped, and thus self-preservation is threatened.
- you lose control of personal boundaries, you cannot track the cause-and-effect relationship of those states in which you are.
- your worldview is changing, and it is disconnected from the sensations in the body, from feelings and thoughts.
- after or even during communication, you suddenly start to want to sleep
- after or even during communication, you suddenly begin to feel body aches
- you feel squeezed, constricted, constrained, tied
- you realize that you have stopped tracking your own thoughts
- you start repeating the same word, phrase or phrase several times during communication, especially when answering questions
- you cannot look away from the interlocutor or you cannot look into his eyes
- you are not aware of what you are feeling
- you have no control over your actions
- you do not recognize yourself, your personality is undergoing strong changes
- you are euphoric or desperate from what is happening to you
- you do not realize or cannot accept as fact the source of influence on the ongoing changes.
BE CONSCIOUS.
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