2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2024-01-12 20:57
Aggressive style of behavior is formed in childhood, as a result of serious trauma. Not always aggressiveness, sadistic inclinations are associated with organic brain damage. Often the child copies the aggressive behavior of the parents, aggression is formed as coping, a defensive reaction against frustration.
As a rule, such a person has an attitude that "only through aggression can I cope with feelings of humiliation and powerlessness." That is, violence is an overcompensation of a subjective feeling of powerlessness.
Key defensive reactions of people prone to aggression: identification with the aggressor (only people endowed with any strength, authority are considered authoritative), almighty control (the belief that it is possible to achieve the desired behavior from others through control, manipulation, cunning, force, threats), reacting in the form of accusing others, opposition, beatings.
Distinctive features of the aggressor:
1.increased sensitivity to the slightest criticism; 2. poor tolerance of frustration (the inability to get what you want here and now immediately causes a negative affect); 3. The locus of control is directed outward: a person is convinced that only others are to blame for his misfortunes.
What will happen if you do not stop aggression?
Loss of emotional sensitivity can occur when a person gets so used to violence, its consequences and other people's pain that he ceases to consider aggression as an extreme form of behavior. Therefore, in fact, nothing keeps him from violence.
Violence can be not only physical, but also verbal, indirect (exploitation, for example), passive-aggressive (emotional deprivation, ignorance, etc.).
Couples Aggressive Cycles:
1. the increase in tension in the relationship; 2. detente in the form of violence; 3. repentance (the aggressor feels guilty, tries to atone for his guilt); 4. harassment (the aggressor is trying to convince the victim that he needs her, he can again turn to threats and harassment); 5. "honeymoon" (the relationship between the aggressor and the victim becomes warm and close until the next cycle of increasing tension).
Is aggressive behavior amenable to correction?
When correcting, it is very important for a person to recognize the fact that his reactions are pathological and interfere with his adaptation.
The hidden benefits of aggressive behavior need to be identified. As a rule, the benefits lie in the belief that "only with the help of aggression can I assert my strength, achieve the desired behavior from others, force myself to be respected", "this is the only way I can react to my negative experiences and get rid of melancholy" …
To form new, adaptive beliefs instead of old ones, to induce a person to put into practice new models of interaction (training of social skills).
It is necessary to develop conscious self-control, learn relaxation skills, relieve stress, and not accumulate stress for a long time.
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