2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
There is reality, and there is psychological reality. Here a person lives at home - family - work and from the outside it seems that everything is normal with him. But no. In his inner reality of storms and storms, worries about something, yearns for someone, dissatisfied with himself. And the present, what really is, ceases to exist. It ceases to be valuable, important, necessary. Only the experience (or attempts at non-experience) becomes significant.
Suggestions to look around are useless, suggestions to compare your life with the existence of those who are even worse do not work.
Sometimes huge efforts are spent on self-talk: well, really, why am I limp, everything is fine. They even come up with action plans for a new life from Monday, but melancholy and dissatisfaction do not allow them to be realized.
And it's good if the reason for the feelings is clear, if you clearly understand what you are worried about and what you want, if you understand the limits of your capabilities and acknowledge your own limitations. With such experiences it is difficult, but it is quite possible for yourself to live.
But if an indistinct anxiety or causeless fear, incomprehensible boredom and laziness, insomnia at night and sleepiness during the day. Or suddenly my heart beats, my breath catches, my body seems to be overlaid with cotton and it seems that everything, the end, non-life, I am dying. And it’s scary, and somewhere inside it’s a fire, and maybe even now, how to suffer …
It's all about depression. And the correct answer to a well-known question is to ask for help. To relatives, friends, psychologist, psychotherapist, psychiatrist. Doctors will help determine the biological component and the need for drug intervention, psychologists - to deal with the causes and difficult experiences, relatives - the opportunity to rely on them in everyday life.
It is no coincidence that the very word depression from the Latin "suppress", it manifests itself in a person's life as depression, but it is often the result of suppressed feelings and thoughts: anger, fear, dissatisfaction, the need to endure, unfulfillment.
Therefore, one of the directions in psychological work is to enable depression to "speak". Hear what such a state signals: what is lacking in life, that there is no way to forget and forgive, what event you cannot accept, whom I call that or want to push away.
Another direction is to form supports. With depression, any, even insignificant, difficulty seems to be an exorbitant burden, immediately crushes, nails, there is no strength to straighten up. Gradually, in the course of meetings with a psychologist, knowledge about oneself appears, new skills, resources, stability, and the ability to withstand stress grows. And, as after the gym, the mental "muscles" are trained, restored, and built up.
The third direction is to reduce the significance of experiences. Gently and carefully, without diminishing their value, and sometimes abruptly and soberingly, return a person to reality. In the very place where home is family - work, where it is possible to change and change, rejoice and experience, seek and find. Live. Be in love. Achieve.
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