2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
… Psychologists keep repeating. If you love and appreciate yourself, then the people around you will also begin to appreciate. To love is not a fact, not without exception, for sure. Because it is impossible to turn to everyone in front. But, having begun to love and appreciate yourself, you will begin to meet people with whom you will resonate in your sense of inner value and significance.
Let me give you a metaphor. Suppose you are an apple. Before that, someone told you that an apple is worthless, that there are a lot of apples, and that it tastes like a so-so fruit, or maybe a pineapple! And now the apple has put on a price tag of 10 kopecks. When he, an apple, is given these 10 kopecks (or they even start to bargain, bring down the price to a penny), the apple becomes bad. Because inside ourselves, at the very depths of our essence, we all know that we are worth incomparably more, that we are generally priceless.
After the words of psychologists that you need to value yourself and respect, after reading books with similar thoughts, the apple gets a state of "Aha!" Exactly! You just need to raise the price tag! The ten-year-old is thrown into the trash heap and now a new value is drawn on the price tag - milen.
Now the situation is changing radically - there are simply no buyers. Someone will come up and laugh and go on, but there are also those people who still offer 10 kopecks. They are unreasonable! After all, the price tag says - milen and nothing less. Bargaining is not appropriate!
But if a person himself does not feel his value, but tries to create it with artificially high demands, then the situation will not change. Intrinsic value is an inner feeling of oneself, a feeling of one's own significance and importance for this world. If you now do not let anyone who donates less than 101 roses, this is not an increase in your value. If you don't go on a date because you were invited to a cafe, and not to the best restaurant, this is not an increase in your value. If you stop communicating with a person who inquired about your affairs less than once a day, this is also not an increase in your value. You just attributed a million to yourself.
And this does not mean that you are worth less. I repeat, a person has no value at all, he is priceless! But if you continue to feel yourself 10 kopecks, and ascribe to yourself several zeros after one, then your value will not change. Yes, you will start rejecting anyone who offers less than a million. But will you attract "millionaires"? No.
Once someone told you that you are worthless and it confused you, misled you. But believe me, this can only be said by the person who does not know his own price in the same way, but tries to inflate it by belittling the value of others. As traders in the market: "Don't look at those apples, they are rotten! And they have no taste, and there are even rumors that they are wormy!" A person who values and loves himself will never say that about someone else.
Intrinsic value is what's inside. This is when you learn to take care of yourself. Learn to love yourself, recognize yourself. When you know how to distinguish between your desires. When you respect your interests. When you accept in yourself all your qualities, properties, character, behavior, thoughts. When you know how to hear and listen to yourself. Intrinsic value is born from the understanding that since I am, since I live, then it makes sense. This means that I am of value to this world.
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