2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
So, do you have a feeling that the most pressing problem has its roots in the family system?
You understood this because:
- did everything possible, but "things are still there";
- you try to transfer the problem to the rank of the problem, but for some reason you can't find a solution;
- you see a lot of adequate solutions, but you still don't come to a result.
You've heard and read a lot about constellations and you know that
- sometimes we “carry” something out of a feeling of “loyalty” (love) to someone from close relatives - blood relatives or those who replaced parents and became significant to you;
- or identify with one of the ancestors, unwittingly repeating his or her fate;
- we become "parents" for our parents or spouses;
- repeat the same negative scenario over and over again in relationships with the opposite sex;
- you cannot make money, because you follow destructive attitudes coming from the Kin. For example: "We weren't rich, you shouldn't even start", "You can't earn all the money."
- or broadcast messages to life, such as: "all women in our family are doomed to loneliness," "there are no happy marriages in our family," etc.
You have come to the conclusion that you need an alignment, but for now
- no money for placement;
- there are no constellators in your city or village;
- you're just scared.
Perform the constellation exercise yourself according to the following algorithm:
- Refine your request by ending the sentence with the question: "As a result of the placement, I want to understand what is stopping me …"
- Make a list of all your close relatives, including adoptive parents, grandfathers, grandmothers, great-grandmothers.
- Remember if you had uncles and aunts, cousins and siblings who played an important role in your life? Complete your list with them
- Were there relatives who are not customary to talk about (alcoholics, drug addicts, criminals, murderers and suicides, mentally ill people)? Include them on your list.
- Look at your list carefully and add to it those people who are not related to you by blood, who helped or hindered you or your ancestors in something very important. For example: those who killed your relative (even by accident) or those who saved someone (doctors, employees of the Ministry of Emergency Situations, etc.), significant Teachers, thanks to whom you made your choice of profession and also include in the list.
- Take blank (on both sides) A4 sheets and on each of them write (separately) by name from the list.
- Turn the sheets over, with the inscriptions down and mix, and then spread them on the floor (so that you do not know where whose sheet is)
- Step on the sheets (one at a time) with bare feet and track your emotions and sensations in your body.
- Rate your condition on a scale from 0 to 10 points.
- After visiting each sheet, put a number on it and write down feelings and points.
- When you go through all the sheets, turn them over and analyze, where was the worst (least points)? There is the root of the problem
- And where it was best - there is your resource!
What to do with the root of the problem (item 11)?
Mentally turn to the person with whom the negative dynamic is associated and ask for permission to free yourself from it.
The permissive phrase is built something like this:
Dear (s) … (address, name - for example: grandmother Anya), in some strange way my life intertwined with yours. For many years I … (describe the action, for example: I could not start a family, did not allow myself to be financially wealthy, etc.) And now I realized that it was in spite of my will, but out of love for you! I respect your fate, only I have my own life and let me live it without this burden. He's not mine, he's yours. And after that I will not love you less, From now on, out of love for you, I will be happy (a).
How to use the resource (item 12)?
- Mentally turn to this person and ask him for strength and energy for yourself.
- Save the sheet with his (her) name.
- Every time you need support, stand on him and try to imagine this person, even if you have never seen him (her) in your life.
- Learn more about this person /
- Find a photo of this person and carry with you as a talisman
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