2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
There are women that men do not get to know. Why does this happen? Is there a way out and how to be? Let's figure it out.
The first thing that comes to mind of a girl who is not "looked at" by men is that she:
not attractive
not interesting
not spectacular
not fashionable
too simple …
You probably already realized that the thoughts of such a girl (woman) will most likely be about those "qualities" of her that may scare away or not attract the attention of men in her direction.
However, let's think - is everything so "simple" and linear?
If men met and began to look after only ideal beauties, then looking around, we would not see couples consisting of different men and completely different (externally and internally) women!
If men only needed "young and early", then they would not marry and create families for women who are over 40, over 50 and even over 60 years old, right?
That is, you and I can assume that the point is not at all that a girl or woman is not attractive in appearance or is not interesting if men do not pay attention to her or do not get to know her!
What we can try to define and accept for ourselves is the understanding that the "outside world" always gives us a mirror image of how we relate to ourselves, what we "translate" into this world.
Often girls, whom they do not meet, broadcast (consciously or subconsciously) "into the world" approximately the following messages:
Men are deceivers, cheaters and do not expect anything good from them in general
If they begin to take care of me, and then they see and understand that I am not interesting and boring, it will be terrible, you cannot be allowed to get to know me better
Once I already had a relationship in which I was offended, I will not allow this anymore
The men are all lazy and "shredded", they need a woman to do everything herself, but this does not suit me
A man will certainly take advantage of me and leave me, because this is their essence, and they all do this to women …
These are just some of the examples that "force" girls and women to emotionally close themselves off from men, try not to notice them, "hide" from them, experience a general negative attitude towards them - and it is these (and those close to such) thoughts and feelings that "make" women are invisible to men.
That is, it is not a girl (woman) who is not attractive to men due to some external features, but her emotional message, which “says”: “You don’t need to come up to me!”.
And in order to get rid of this message, you need to admit to yourself that it exists and start helping yourself to get rid of it (experts will help you).
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