How To Tell A Frog From A Princess

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Eric Berne's famous metaphor of frogs and princesses defined the meaning of personal development as the transformation of a "frog" into a princess. Let's clarify this process and try to distinguish one from the other. It's not just women, of course …

1. Frogs cannot walk

With ease overcoming a distance of one meter in one jump, they are not able to overcome 5 centimeters. And if the destination is in a zone that is less than the distance of their jump, then the frog collides with an insurmountable obstacle. It is impossible to cope with nature. This is mainly manifested in relationships, where distance for intimacy requires the ability to move sometimes by a millimeter and at low speed. therefore frogs either "jump" into a relationship, often unexpectedly for a partner, or literally jump out of it. It also confuses the other person and is often perceived as an unexpected throw. And bye " frog "waiting for an invitation to return, since she was not going to run away far and for a long time, but only a little away, the partner in the relationship can be absolutely sure of their end and is already making other plans. And he may be surprised by the offended and indignant reaction to the oncoming silence. Princess they know how to run, and jump, and walk on tiptoes. But the main feature Princesses - this is the merit of their gait. They do not rush unnecessarily, vanity is alien to them. They know how to control their movement and are able to correctly choose the speed and distance to which they need to approach or retreat. In an unfamiliar situation, they will take cautious steps. They will allow the other to move towards them, if necessary.

2. The frog sees only a moving object

This feature of the frog's nature is manifested in the fact that " frog "attaches importance only to visible actions or events. Being at rest, she does not show inner activity in examining herself and analyzing. She is waiting for something to happen. The peculiarity of this activity is that the result is not important to it, the main thing is the process. Therefore, the amount of effort invested for the "frog" can be huge, and the result is minimal or absent. Such activity creates the illusion of a lot of work done and ends in disappointment. " I tried everything, nothing came of it "…

If she had stopped and thought, analyzed, then the actions could be an order of magnitude less, and the result is obvious, but … That is why the "frogs" often do not have their own opinion, but listen to others in everything. At the same time, taking him for his own.

Princess observant and not fussy. They will not do anything outside until they make a decision on the inside. They can understand or feel it, it doesn't matter. They tend to listen to themselves and trust themselves. They like to analyze their feelings or thoughts and look for a connection between them. Their inner world is rich and varied. Therefore, they have their opinion on almost any account. They respect the opinions of others, but they never take them for granted. They trust, but they check. Naivety is not about them!

Princess give equal attention to both the process and the result. For them, the end does not justify the means. Therefore, they are equally good at dealing with success and failure. From the latter, they always learn from experience. Therefore, the Princesses are not familiar with the feeling of "living someone else's life" or regretting the past. They know how to be grateful and accepting.

3. The frog is omnivorous

This quality is directly related to the previous one. Frog afraid to miss something from the outside, so swallows everything. What if this is the last mosquito? " Frogs "can be easy-going and get involved in any proposed adventures indiscriminately. They may not immediately understand where they got to. Sometimes, already left at the broken trough. But they do not draw conclusions. After all, for this you need to look inside, and we remember that this is not about them. Omnivorousness applies to everything: relationships, work, interests, etc. " Frog "does not know how to say" no "and grabs everything for fear that this is the last chance. Legibility is one of the main features Princesses … These will definitely try first, and then "eat". And then not immediately. Where have you seen the starving, overeating The princess ? Even hungry, she will try and then eat. Princesses know how to wait, so they prefer to wait for what they want than take whatever.

4. The frog does not turn around

The danger of a hungry stork is inevitable. Moreover, the stork did not have to try particularly hard not to be noticed. Just approach slowly and … bam! No frogs … Such inflexibility " frogs "manifests itself in her tenacity even when everything is already obvious. But the frog takes the absence of a neck and the inability to look up or around the sides for granted. Therefore, she condemns those who show flexibility in life, and calls those who look at the stars" stupid romantics. "Over time, her stubbornness becomes her main danger. But try to tell her about it! This feature is associated with the inability of the" frog "to take into account the experience of the past. She does not turn around! Princesses the neck is long and the head turns in all directions. They also love to look at the stars and clouds, not forgetting what time they have a plane flight or after how many minutes they need to turn off the stove. They scan reality for danger and prefer justified risk. Their peripheral vision is sometimes better developed than the main one.

5. The frog croaks, even when it is necessary to be silent

Well, who has not heard this croaking, which can only be called empty chatter? The iridescent trills of the frog only in 10% of cases have the goal of attracting a partner. Everything else - will attract the attention of not at all those whom she expects. But the nature of the "frog" did not teach her to be silent when necessary. Therefore, eating, sleeping and chatting are her main occupations. Princesses are laconic and are responsible for their words. They will never say about themselves "my word, I want to give, I want to take away." Their words are worth a lot, so they are not scattered around. Perhaps that is why, when the Princess speaks, everyone listens to her attentively.

6. Frogs love swamps. Frogs choose stagnant water

Over time, they learn not to smell and love their swamp, which is warm, cozy … and nothing changes. "Frogs" don't like change. And they do not like those who love change. And those who also organize them, they simply do not digest! But they love to "croak" about them at sunset. About how awful and disgusting they are. How they spoil the life of respectable "frogs" with their stupid ideas and innovations! They used to live in the old fashioned way, and everything was fine. The swamp was blooming, there were clouds of mosquitoes. And now they are draining the swamp, making stupid roads or digging lakes, horror! with running water. Princesses hate standing water. Serve them fresh. They can admire the swamp, pick up water lilies. But they will not live, even by the swamp, let alone in it, for nothing! Princesses love change and often make it themselves. Fresh air and fresh ideas are what Princesses love. This does not mean that they always give preference to the new over the old. They will be equally enthusiastic about restoring grandma's old wardrobe and choosing new furniture. The main difference between the Princess and the "frog" is in their attitude towards themselves! The princess thinks that she is good and that everything is fine with her, even when she makes mistakes. She does not belittle herself for them, but can gain experience. The princess may feel sorry for herself if she is hurt. She can be fair and caring to herself. Therefore, it is not difficult for her to be like that with other people. The "frog" is self-conscious all the time. She considers herself inferior and flawed. Sometimes she simply hates herself and considers only herself to be the culprit of what is happening. Some "frogs" criticize and blame themselves so much that they start doing it to others. To hide their inferiority complex, some "frogs" wear a crown and declare themselves princesses. They may even start to believe it. It is very easy to distinguish a real Princess from a disguised "frog". Real people respect others as well as themselves.

And now the main secret

We are all born as Princes or Princesses. But it so happens that due to the many conditions of our childhood, we find ourselves bewitched by evil spells, and we inherit the skin of a frog. The main danger for us, if we are enchanted, is to wait for someone to disenchant us. Ivan the Fool or Vasilisa in love. Fairy tales are written in symbolic language. All her characters are just parts of ourselves. Therefore, Vasilisa in love is a symbol of the fact that it is time for us to meet and love our soul (she is female). And Ivan the Fool is a symbol of wisdom that has reached the level of simplicity. The one who carries the main values in life: to respect yourself and others, to show love in action and find your own meaning in life. And the very first step in turning the "frog" back into the Princess will be to remember that she was born that way, and that the frog skin must be burned in the oven so that there is no temptation to put it on again and return to your swamp …!