Golden Children

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Who has not heard of the "golden boys" and "golden girls" who do not believe that the laws are written for them? They have moms and dads. This is "not easy" mom, and "not easy" dad, and such daddy are magicians who turn any vital pumpkin into a carriage. If the child fell and broke his nose on the ground, the parents are ready to give the planet a strong kick so as not to offend the child

Of course, the first thing that comes to everyone's mind is the children of the bosses who commit offenses, literally, on a regular basis. Daddies pull the baby out of any position, no matter how he gets stuck in this position. But this is not only about the "rich" story. Golden children are a problem of our time. It's just that dads of more modest capabilities do not have enough capacity to get their child out of the problems he got into. Those. these golden children drop out of the world much earlier and they never have the opportunity to grow to the size of real villains.

There is such a style of education - "permissive". Its basis is the complete absence of restrictions for the child. His motto is “Freedom is above responsibility”. After all, the main thing is what? So that the child does not grow up squeezed, does not become a "slave". And the fact that he is not responsible for his actions … so it … will understand! In the meantime, "baby".

Usually, children with this style of parenting are not allowed to solve their problems. Took a shovel from a comrade in the sandbox? Comrade roars in three streams? The mother comes and explains to the victim's parent that she should teach her child how to share. And then, look, yours is crying like a girl, and undermines with his hysterics the delicate mental organization of my son. And so it causes him terrible moral damage. So … give us a scapula … otherwise we will have to cover up for the treatment of my baby's torn nerves.

Yes, it comes to the point of absurdity, but the parents of such a child can very easily turn any situation in such a way that the kid who has made a mess will always be innocent. The child does not have the opportunity to learn how to properly interact with the people around him, because he does not see boundaries when he is already going too far, and it is simply impossible. There is no experience of rebuff and "response" when in the sandbox you can be treated "unfairly" and the owner will take his shovel. And he will not even care about what happened to the fine mental organization there. His scapula.

The kid does not have "no" for herself. There are people who, for some reason, do not give the opportunity to get what they want. There, they, the owners of the shovels, have "no". You can't make your child feel uncomfortable. Therefore, a child can hit a friend in the eye simply for causing slight displeasure. And then he will simply be sincerely surprised that he is being judged. After all, everything is correct! My mood was darkened by that same nasty boy. He himself is to blame, you can't upset me.

In interaction with parents, the child often learns that the more and louder he gets upset, the faster he is forgiven and his problems are solved. The more the parents put pressure on their opponents. Therefore, it is advisable, if the shoulder blade is refused, to fall in hysterics and then the sand labor tool will be quickly in hand.

Yes, almost all children go through the age of such violent emotional outbursts per octase. But then, when they already more easily begin to regulate their emotions, all these bounces stop. For a child who grows up in a permissive family, the period of emotional frenzy lasts a lifetime. Did they not allow you to change lanes on the road? What a badass! Wow, how angry the kid is! I got out of the car and smashed the windshield of the offender. Achyo? I suffered myself to blame. There is nothing to make good boys feel negative.

Such children learn the school curriculum much worse. Grades are not an indicator. Daddy will come and solve the issues with good academic performance. He doesn't have to work or study. Everything happens by itself and it doesn't matter at all whether you know how much 2 + 2 will be or not. The baby grows up and moves in her career until the time when the dads can no longer solve all the issues and close the gaps in knowledge with round sums.

But children, even when they are found at the level of their extreme incompetence, do not understand at all that they are nothing of themselves and cannot do anything. They start some unpromising businesses, build projects with a sense of their own fucking goodness, often relying on the parents' connections and their money. At the same time, they are absolutely sure that they “built a career with their own hands” and “started from scratch”. Nobody helped a bit.

As a rule, they do not respect their parents. Papamama, they are such automatic saviors. The child goes through life without looking back, knocking down tubs of flowers along the way and dropping candy wrappers. Papamamas run behind with a broom and a scoop and clean up the dirt. Their business is for such a cloudless existence to continue, so that when the child turns around, he does not see anything that could cause him anxiety. It has always been like this, you didn't have to do anything for that. It itself was instituted from infancy.

Since there is no one in this life to take care of, there is absolutely nothing to think about what is good and what is bad. Especially if the kid wants something right here and now. Everything is possible if there is such a desire. You can go for a deception, a crime, you can set up others. Including parents.

Despite the fact that the baby is such a king-king and a shah in one person, he has rather low self-esteem and a high level of anxiety. Still, there is a latent understanding of the impossibility of independently managing your life. There is quite a lot of experience of social rejection. Even all the pressure of the parents cannot make, for example, the work collective fall in love with the grown goat. Not all girls are delighted with treating them as a powerless source of pleasure.

Low self-esteem has to be constantly raised in different ways, which is called overcompensation. They need to constantly show their superiority. People are so eager for physical abuse for the slightest reason, because very quickly begin to feel frustration. They need to be constantly in sight, to participate in events where not everyone is allowed, but only to a select few, to regularly demonstrate the possession of special things that the bulk of the population cannot afford. They are very often the authors of texts on the topic of their exclusivity with malicious comments about others. If they do not do this, their anxiety grows. They begin to feel that they are drowning.

These people often struggle with authority. But not because there is something wrong with the authorities. And because the kids want ice cream, right here and now, and the store is closed. If there is an ice cream during every "I want", and the authorities will, like dad and mom, run after them and pick up garbage so that the child's face is not darkened, then there will be no claims to the authorities.

Are they afraid of public censure? Yes, do not care! They were always reprimanded. Well, of course, it's just trash and envious people can't help but condemn. There is simply no point in wasting your time on these pathetic little people. They are just a means of obtaining "I want", the rest of the time the existence of cattle is meaningless. Feelley thinking about him.

The child grows into a defective personality that can exist only under conditions of constant creation and maintenance of the illusion of his own power. Without this, it simply does not exist. And so, when there are a lot of such children, they very well support each other's illusions. They won't understand, appreciate, appreciate, or empathize. This is not the case in their world.