2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
There is a chasm between success and failure
whose name is "I have no time."
Franklin Field
Have you met people in your life who say the phrase "I have no time"?
Or maybe you say it to yourself and your environment quite often?
Not once or twice we have said this phrase to ourselves and to others.
And this phrase can refer to anything. Any sphere of life of pleasure, work, achievement….
- I don't have time to study a foreign language.
- I have no time for myself (generally very abstract).
- I have no time for my personal life.
- I don't have time for new knowledge / reading books.
- I don't have time for sports / yoga / dancing.
- I have no time to find a new job, additional income.
It is possible to list all these NO TIME for a very, very long time.
I think you have already recognized in these lines your friends and relatives (usually others are better known) and possibly (hopefully) yourself.
"No time" we say, by and large, when our life is filled to capacity with events or when we do not want to do something, change our life, admit to ourselves in something.
This phrase sounds like anesthesia, local or full anesthesia, when a person understands, feels, somewhere deep inside himself, that he literally lowered and continues to drain his time (his life) into the closet, but he cannot admit this to others and to himself, or doesn't want to, it's scary.
It's bitter, painful, ashamed and guilty to tell myself that I spent a lot of time on something that I can't even remember now.
Moreover, in the first case, if you ask to tell, what are you doing (what is your time for?), Then a person can tell in sufficient detail what he is doing and there is a really very tight schedule, there is a lot of interesting, necessary and exciting. There is a rational use of your time for your own good.
But with the second case, I propose to understand in more detail.
If you do not have time to go in for sports, then somehow it is much easier to put up with a belly instead of a press, shortness of breath from jogging as much as 100 meters, flabby arms and a sore back.
If you do not have time to learn a foreign language, then it is very easy to justify yourself for explanations "on the fingers" on rare trips abroad (if you have them, of course, it takes time and money). And in general, I did not come here (Egypt, Turkey, France, Italy) to talk to the locals, but to rest, why would I have "their" languages, they will pour whiskey on the bar anyway, All inclusive so to speak.
If you don't have time to find a new job. More interesting, more paid, just more … in a parameter that is important to you. It's easier to come to terms with the fact that I don't really consider myself a professional. And so it becomes much easier, with the understanding that by and large, until the end of your days, you are going to survive, instead of living.
There is no time for myself, this is completely incomprehensible to me. Since in my reality, everything I do, I do for myself first of all. And what my needs and desires are in the first, second, and which in the last place, depends on what I do.
Yes, yes, if by the words "there is no time for myself", you mean - I do not take care of myself, I have no personal time space, when I can do whatever I want or not do, then I will upset you - alas, you are not for yourself first and not even second. At best, 122.
Now, many may begin to resent and unleash their righteous anger on me. After all, there are only 24 hours in a day. And there is really little time for everything, everything. There is not enough time for all the important things …. What nonsense …. How can you stretch the time ???
And I will agree that there really is not enough time for everything (it is precisely so generalized and abstractly formulated).
And at the same time, I propose to analyze your time, or rather the actions that you perform during these 24 hours.
Honestly, sincerely, not for me, but for yourself, if it is really important for you to find your wasted time and keep it for yourself.
I propose to conduct an experiment.
It is quite simple to execute. All you need is you, your usual day (3-5-7 days of your life for the purity of the experiment), a notebook and a pen. If you are used to using electronic notebooks in gadgets - Ok, the excuse "I don't have a pen and a notebook" is also welcomed and excluded:)
Record everything that you do during the day with timing, it is more efficient to record every 30 minutes, maximum - every hour. At first it will be strange, it will seem strange and you will forget to write down. To avoid excessive forgetfulness, "girlish" memory, and sudden attacks of amnesia, you can set an alarm clock in your phone (tested on yourself, it works).
By doing this non-tricky self-observation experiment, you will begin to physically feel time. You will look at him more closely.
Further, I suggest deleting from your vocabulary the phrase "I have no time" and all those adjacent to it (busy, no time, etc.). As long as you speak to yourself (read the mantra) - there is no time, from these words, it (time) will no longer be.
Replace this standard phrase, an automatic, socially acceptable and approved excuse-excuse that creates the appearance of employment, with an honest one - "I don't have this in the first place", "I prefer another", "I have a priority now and this and that ".
Priority is not what we say. Priority is what we really do
When you start replacing, you will get something like this:
It was - I had time to go in for sports.
It has become - I give preference to lying on the couch / watching a movie / sleeping.
It was - I don't have time to study a foreign language.
It has become - my priority is to play on a tablet / phone / computer, surfing in social networks / online stores.
It was - I do not have time for my personal life or I do not have time to communicate with the child.
It has become - my first place is career / friends / communication on social networks.
What we get after such a replacement:
- we set our own priorities, or rather they have been set long ago, now we begin to notice them.
- we see where we are spending our own time.
- we begin to wonder if the priorities that exist now are really so important to me or are they not really, or rather not at all what I want?
- we stop complaining, feeling like failures and making excuses, and just start seeing our own existing priorities.
And here, we begin to analyze, understand ourselves and our actions, and sometimes sincerely do not understand ourselves - how so, I thought that I was busy up to my ears, but it turns out I spend 4-5 hours in day (at best) it is not clear what (here everyone will have something of their own, and at the same time, many will have the same).
Surfing social networks, meaningless correspondence in the comments to posts (again, someone is wrong on the Internet), watching TV shows, videos on YouTube, 7-10 cups of tea / coffee with colleagues + the same number of smoke breaks (where without them) and this is working hours, and then we stay late at work (and the boss is a bastard, he put a lot of work on it) and we carry work home and go to the office on weekends.
Because there is a lot of work … and the boss … we remember, he is a bastard, but in reality what? But in fact, we do not effectively use our own 24 hours a day, the compass is knocked down, the priorities are shifted and unidentified.
I am not urging you to become super-mega-cool-trouble-free-efficient bio-robots.
I am for efficiency for myself, for environmental friendliness for myself, if you like.
I mean that there is enough time and that they get pleasure and have time to rejoice.
Then it is up to you to draw conclusions and make decisions about changes and actions or inaction, the choice is always yours.
You know very well that the most important resource we have is time
Regardless of whether you voice your priorities or not, the focus of your attention and actions is always exactly what is in priority, what you put your stake on. This is exactly what you spend your 24 hours a day on (168 hours a week, 672 hours a month, and 8,760 hours a year).
Think about how you fill them. What habits consume the most of your time.
Write in the comments what one thing / habit you considered important, but in fact it turned out that it is not on the list of your real, today, priorities.
And what is the first step you are taking today / tomorrow in order for this one thing to become a real priority.
Being honest with yourself is fun.
For me it is to be ALIVE, and to stop being a victim of circumstances.
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