How To Break The Cycle Of Loneliness?

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Time flies inexorably forward - this is a well-known truth, which cannot be denied and which cannot be denied. And at one "perfect" moment, the number of fans becomes noticeable, or even their absence at all

You start to remember how in the old days the boyfriends lined up to once again dance a slow dance with you, they threw flowers at you not only for your birthday and March 8, but just like that, for no reason. They offered to give a ride to the house, to work. And now the situation has changed dramatically, flowers are only for a birthday, and then from colleagues or relatives. You come to clubs with your friends and leave with them the same way, and if you come to get acquainted, then these are either far from middle-aged men, or very young. On dating sites, the situation is the same. And I really want a man to be smart, to have something to talk about, and sometimes just keep quiet. And, of course, your age is also desirable in terms of the status of an equal.

Probably, you survived the blow of betrayal, after which there was neither the desire nor the strength to start a new relationship. But as the saying goes, "time heals," and the wound is not so strong, and the habit of being alone remains. Do not let anyone near you, this is already a matter of course.

Perhaps there were no crowds of fans before, and you always avoided noisy parties and parties, erected an impregnable wall around yourself. Now what can you do to bring down this wall? And it’s not a crowd of fans that you want, but one, the one who will take care of you.

And sometimes it happens - at one point you decide that it's time to start a new relationship. Relationship with the prospect of a wedding and raising common children. But the image of the ideal man has already formed, whom you want to see next to. But where to find one?

Usually a woman begins to get acquainted on sites, while categorically rejecting frivolous relationships. Turns to friends for help, asks them to act as a matchmaker. And so on in a circle, without achieving results.

After all, she is no longer eighteen years old, and there is no time for this useless flirting. It is necessary that the only one who will become a husband is immediately found, because it is already time to become a mother, and I am not a model. Very often you can hear the following words from women: “I do not want to waste my precious time on useless communication, which will not lead to anything serious. They take even more time and energy."

When looking for a partner, as well as when shooting a gun at a target, all additional factors must be taken into account. And additional factors are our grievances, fears, experiences, all that past that we carry with us like a suitcase without a handle. And this burden makes it difficult to see a man as he is, without putting "labels" on him. After all, when he does not justify your high hopes, in a fit of disappointment, you call him a "liar" and "deceiver."

Therefore, the first task is not to find a man who will become an ideal husband, but to decide on new acquaintances and let it be an easy flirtation. There is a very interesting task. He will meet ten men to create friendships, while treating everyone equally. Don't get too close. To create, as it were, such a fairy tale, in which there are fans who take care of you while you are waiting for your prince.

You have decided that it is time to let a man into your life, start with nothing insignificant acquaintances. On the Internet, you can often see men who are looking for a one-night stand, this is definitely not your option. There are those who write in the questionnaire that they need a woman to create a family, this is also not for you yet. To begin with, just light flirting, smiles, meaningless conversations.

Often, women begin to take revenge. To avenge the tears her ex-man brought her. And this revenge pours out not on the culprit, but on the accidental victim. I just fell under the hot hand. After a date with a man, you shouldn't post on the Internet how bad he is, "I didn't buy flowers, I didn't take them to a cafe and in general he is a goat." There will be many sympathizers, but what's the point. But at the same time, you will even more believe that "all men are good …".

You should not reject from the first meeting someone who did not live up to your expectations from the first minute. You need to take into account the little things and just be grateful that the person showed interest and came on a date, despite the distance and time. Perhaps this person in the future will help you open up and will be the one and the same person who pulled you out of the cocoon of loneliness. Perhaps he will prepare you for a meeting with your prince. Be more supportive even if you don't meet the person again.