2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Case courtesy of client permission
The situation with which the client came to the session related to the first, youthful love, which unexpectedly manifested itself in the current period of her life and made her grieve a little …
Background …
The bride and groom loved each other very much, as they love, probably, only once. The premarital relationship was amazing, wonderful. But the early marriage did not work out and the young parted … And then their paths diverged …
Time passed and then one day their paths drew closer for a moment, but the conversation did not work out. The man was unapproachable, closed … As if he had been replaced. But once he was an open and friendly person, especially to this girl …
And since there was no explanation, and there were questions to the past, the woman came to therapy.
Session request
Explain virtually with a face from the past, close the sad gestalt.
Psychological work
The study was carried out in the format of a virtual dialogue based on the empty chair technique (client and substitute).
Chair number 1 is the client's position. Chair number 2 is the position of a significant person.
Psychological task
To respond to accumulated emotions - to speak out, trying to explain.
Working process
Chair 1. Position 1. Client's message: “Returning mentally to the situation of the past, I understand the following: we both - one after the other (first I, when I broke off relations), then you (when you hurried with the next marriage)“aborted”each other from the center of personal space to the sidelines of your life. This could not but leave its spiritual-karmic mark on our hearts and destinies. That is why it is so important to explain at least once, asking for forgiveness for the pain caused, thanking for the good, reconciling. And since a real conversation did not work out, I send my messages in the only available format, in psychological practice, directly to your soul. Be happy! Thanks for the good! Forgive and let go! Shall we say goodbye?"
(The client sits down on an empty chair opposite. Identifies herself with a person from the past. Looks at her real self and responds to the sent message.)
Chair 2. Position 2. Answer by 2nd person: “How closed I am - amazing … There is a wall between me and the bride. A serf … As wide as a man's height … This is how ancient fortresses were built … Bah-a-ah, but I'm a PRISONER … That's right, from the IF CASTLE. I see my bride through a narrow window in the tower. I am in captivity, in chains and shackles - imprisoned here forever. The condition is grave, gloomy. The world is not nice - I know that I will be deceived … In my soul - neither joy nor love … I am tired of being punished for libel, for sinister and blasphemous slander … And angry with my offenders …"
The client returns to her original place (her own) and responds to the confession she heard.
Chair 1. Position 1. Client's answer: “Poor, my poor Dantes! And I did not know about this side of the story. How many new things are being discovered … And this explains the gap in a different way … We are torn apart - by circumstances, or perhaps by someone's interference. But I am free, and you are in trouble. What can I do in memory of that love? To ask God for salvation - not for yourself - for you! May He tear down the wall that holds you in captivity, may He set you free. You will go your own way, I will continue mine. But you will be free and you will be able to breathe again …"
The client looks at the sky through the open window of the office and desperately prays, it seems to her that God hears her and the fortress wall of the ominous tower is slowly collapsing, freeing the prisoner from captivity … She blesses his path and goes into her space … Their roads diverge … Farewell took place …
(All this is done on a whim. But the effect is strong, to tears. The client forgives her beloved and releases him free, into a new, good life … Feeling relieved …)
It is curious that a day later, the client recalls the following: in the folder of her family archives, their marriage certificate (her and the person from the past) is still stored - for a long 25 years. How did it stay in the archives? Why was it kept for so long? She cannot answer … This fact now desperately amazes her! Here it is a symbolic link to the past. The woman conditionally remained connected with her first husband. The certificate was torn - gestalt closed.
… Time has passed and this situation does not bother the woman any more …
Sometimes it is simply necessary to carry out such a plot-metaphorical test to clarify the issues of concern to us, to virtually explain with the heroes of past years and complete the work with a symbolic ritual of farewell. And the old eye ties are crumbling … Here is such a magic …
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