2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Mom always influences us.
We dream about it, we invisibly feel it, think about it, remember, imagine or think about something. We argue, we prove, we convince.
A sly smile of my mother peeps through our body and our face.
And if an adult woman is stuck in her mother's world, then she constantly compares herself to her. For years you carry in your heart and hide from everyone - anger at your mother. Remembers her mother's poisonous words that ruin her female adult life.
He looks at himself with “mother’s” eyes - I cannot, it will not work, I cannot cope, I’m not worthy, but why do I need this at all….
She is still waiting for support and self-confidence. She persuades herself, as soon as my mother recognizes something in me or about me, as soon as I start to achieve, as I become successful …..
She is afraid to defend herself, to defend her choice, decision, because this can offend her mother.
Years go by …..
The pages of the women's calendar turn over the third, fourth, fifth ten….
And my mother's influence is only getting stronger. Because a woman does not want to recognize him, fights with him, rejects, excludes. He convinces himself that everything is wrong - no complaints, no anger, no comparison, no expectation of a miracle …
A woman's right is to live in self-deception, so it is beautiful. It has no dark corners and dangerous shadows. You don't have to take off the mask of “ideal” or “correct”, “cool” or “happy” in it, make your pain visible, live and let go of it.
For many women, letting go of the pain in relationships with my mother is like losing touch with her, and I don’t want to admit this at all - "my connection with my mother is through pain." Not through a resource or respect or recognition of the influence of a mother on herself or recognition of her strengths and her adulthood.
A woman's right is to live in misery.
But if you suddenly want a new quality of relations with a man or in general in a man to see a separate person, and not "an eternal goat, which must and must."
You want money, generally understand and experience how it is to be financially independent.
Will want success in society and its recognition by other people
You will want to enjoy your belonging to the female world.
A woman will have to admit and heal her pain about what has not come true and has not happened, about the influence of her mother on herself - in everything and always. Every woman knows about her mother's Shadow, but not everyone wants to admit it.
And without this recognition - the passage to the above is always closed.
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