Blocking Your Feelings Leads To Depression, OCD, Fatigue

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

When does the blocking of feelings occur in a person? It is hard to say. Precisely earlier than today, and probably in childhood and adolescence. Exactly as in the parental family, or in interaction with important adults.

At some point, the child realizes that it is not safe to express and experience his feelings and emotions. Often - this is an irrational fear, often - fear because of the situation taking place where the child lives: scandals, quarrels, violence, etc.

The older such a person becomes, the more his sensitivity is lost. The body becomes more enslaved, a person is strongly strengthened in his stereotypes of behavior and feeling, it happens that over the years a person practically ceases to be spontaneous, loses the ability to live his own feelings and emotions, explore the world around him, be aware of and live life.

Fear, which arose long ago, is firmly rooted in a person, his subconsciousness and prevents him from being spontaneous, free in living his life. A person lives as if in a "framework". When you work with such a client, my simple questions about simple situations and decisions of the client, in which one can see the way out of the frame - "knocks the ground out of underfoot."

A conservative person can be 21, 42, or 73 years old. Sluggishness - the inability of a person to maneuver in his life - I compare it with a rail track - an old, clamped one-track of ways of responding in life, built a long time ago between the person himself and his important figure (mother, father, coach, etc.). There is no track in the other direction. There is only one monorail. And let the road lead to a place where for a long time a person himself has not needed for a long time, and the movement on rusty rails is no longer convenient, causes tension and anxiety - a person drives by these rails, fearing something inside himself - something irrational, ancient and unclear. The manifestation of this is my work as a psychologist. Being aware of yourself, your feelings and needs, awareness of the causes and effects of your actions is the way to improve the quality of life.

To recognize oneself, to recognize one's own in oneself, for many people is unbearable, because in childhood it meant (thanks to a norm subconsciously learned in childhood - for example, from a mother): if you want to be loved, fulfill my requirements, that is, do not be yourself, otherwise I will not love you! The prejudice that love must be earned is often a basic human belief. Further - more: a feeling of guilt is fixed in the child, and manipulations of the child take place on him in childhood. The child suppresses in himself anger, irritability, is forced to constantly confirm his value, not realizing his true needs. Personality qualities are not assigned, a person, as it were, "looks" in the mirror of the people around him in order to get their assessment and assign it to himself.

Having matured, without changing these internal childish attitudes, a person begins to feel pain in the heart, fatigue, depression, and more. etc. Alas, prejudices, as the basis of a rusty one-track track, often remain with a person for his entire life. And a person lives in tension, fulfilling someone else's setting - and tension often becomes the main activity of all muscles, and leads to many diseases.