A Dangerous Female Habit: 24 Signs That You Are Already On The Brink

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

The woman has one dangerous habit. In the energetic sense, to give away the "last shirt" and be left with nothing. Moreover, this is not always caused precisely by the need to help someone.

Sometimes we give the last one to someone who doesn't really need it in order to be good, in the hope of getting love, and sometimes just out of stupidity. I just didn't notice how it all happened.

Often the process of such giving is full of enthusiasm, she is on the “wave”, it is easy for her to give. And then it seems to plummet down, sinks aground. Call it whatever you like, but there is no more energy. For nobody.

And now she remains empty, emaciated, practically "naked", defenseless. It is not clear where to run, and whether there is enough strength to run anywhere at all. Either call some hotline, they say, bring in female strength, refuel, please! Either find some kind of outlet and charge the battery at least a little. You just need to know where such a socket is.

We usually realize that we are devastated too late, much later than we should. When the last strength has already been spent, and there are no new ones. And in this case, it would be useful to have some criteria, red lights that would light up, warning of imminent devastation. It would be convenient for women, like cars, to start flashing a light when their strength ends. Then it would be possible to recharge and fill up in time, without harm to health and others. But we are arranged differently.

Usually we leave our strength entirely and completely, sometimes we go into negative territory and only then we realize that we had to rest and recharge. And as if these very cars, we "get up" at the most inopportune moment in the middle of the road and thereby interfere with others, creating traffic jams and collecting curses - couldn’t I refuel in time? And besides, our plans are being destroyed, we don't have time to get somewhere and spend a lot of time in vain, waiting for help and restoring our own working capacity.

After all, it would be much easier and faster to fill the fuel on time. The key word is on time. To understand that the fuel is running out - and refuel.

As a result, we have to spend much more energy and nerves on our own recovery. It is a terrible habit to burn your "fuel" to the last drop, not caring about tomorrow and even today. Not caring about loved ones, because our energy is their "food". We fill the house with our energy, and invest it in our loved ones. Not caring about oneself, forgetting about oneself altogether, putting oneself aside at the very end of the queue of those suffering. Only here is how to accept these suffering and how to help them if you yourself do not have any strength? Is it possible to somehow recognize that your strength is running out? Yes, if you learn to hear and understand yourself. Yes, if you track your condition. Yes, if you live in "manual" mode, and not on autopilot.

There are many different signs that an emotional hole is approaching. I'll tell you the most common ones.

So, you urgently need to refuel your tank if:

1. You are annoyed by other people. It doesn't matter if you are close or unfamiliar, maybe you just see random posts on social networks from strangers, and even they annoy you, what can we say about loved ones.

2. You do not sleep well at night from various thoughts, you cannot fall asleep (and the inability to fully rest at night devastates you even more). Insomnia is always a sign of exhaustion.

3. You don't look good. Our emotional state and fullness are read in the eyes. If it goes out, then it's time to refuel.

4. You eat too little or forget to eat altogether. You have no time for that, there are more important things to do, there is no appetite. So go with an empty tank and an empty stomach.

5. You eat too much, not sorting out what exactly got into your mouth, not feeling the taste of food. A dangerous sign, which also leads to overweight and eating disorders.

6. You have trouble preparing food - it doesn't taste good or doesn't work at all. There is no desire to cook, no mood. This usually means that you need to fill yourself with something as soon as possible.

7. Houseplants are dying in your house. You seem to be doing everything, but they do not want to grow and live in any way. This usually happens in women who are not at ease with themselves and their feminine essence. And this is a symptom that it's time to take care of yourself.

8. You have no desire to make love to your husband at all. That's just not all. And any hints, touches - you are very annoyed. This may not be a symptom if you have always had little sex needs or if you and your husband are abstinent. But if usually such a desire occurs, and then suddenly once - and for a long time it is not - this is a bell. But you don't have to force yourself. First you need to refuel.

9. You are sick. Sometimes this is the only way our bodies can reach us and beg for a break. Force you to bed and make you rest. Therefore, any ill health - headache, runny nose, skin problems - is always a call that you urgently need to take care of yourself.

10. You are all too lazy. When you don't feel like washing the dishes, cleaning, or even taking a shower, this is a sign of serious fatigue. Especially if you even want something, but cannot force yourself in any way - it means that you need proper rest, not just sit on the phone.

11. Depressive and pessimistic thoughts. Do you see this attitude in your head? Urgently, urgently, urgently, start filling yourself with energy until all these thoughts have materialized.

12. You can't wake up in the morning and you want to sleep all the time. This is a signal of overwork, exhaustion - both of the heart and the fuel tank.

13. You break down on loved ones. If you suddenly shout at your husband, children, parents - something is clearly wrong here, and for a long time. And the loved ones have nothing to do with it. You are simply de-energized, and everyone suffers from this.

14. You don't want to communicate with anyone. Women love to communicate. Of course, some only with loved ones, and some - with everyone. But if a woman does not want to talk at all, and it lasts more than a couple of hours - most likely something is wrong.

15. You don't want to take care of yourself. When you are too lazy to comb your hair or change your dirty T-shirt, you don’t want to dress up, when you haven’t shaped your eyebrows and applied cream for a hundred years, this is a symptom of exhaustion in a dangerous phase.

16. You spend all your money on others. They gave you a salary or your husband gave you a bunch of money, you went to the store. What did you buy? Dress for daughter, Lego son, shirt for husband, curtain for home, groceries, rent … And the money ran out! And yourself? Nothing. I didn’t like anything, I didn’t grab money, I didn’t have time. Dangerous symptom!

17. You don't want anything. In the store, nothing touches you for yourself - no dresses, no shoes, no hairpins, no books. They ask you what to give you, but you do not know what to want. Carefully! Dangerous condition!

18. You don't like yourself. I don’t want to buy anything for such a body, I don’t want to paint such a face and I don’t want to braid such hair. I don't want to look in the mirror, much less take pictures. An alarming sign! Yes, maybe you have something to strive for in your appearance, but if it evokes such feelings, then this is a reason to think about your fullness.

19. Increased anxiety. Feeling overly anxious and in control of everything, no matter what? Anxiety, fear, excitement in your chest - and you can't do anything? It means that they are devastated and there is no force inside that can help you and your loved ones, protecting them.

20. Comfortable clothing. Do you choose clothes not according to the principle of "like", but according to convenience, so that you can whitewash the ceiling, and run after the dog, and wash the floor, and wipe your hands on the hem, so that you don't mind getting dirty? It seems that you have turned the wrong way …

21. Too fast pace. Do you feel that you are not living, but are running - first to work, then to kindergarten, then behind the tram? And even go to the bath almost like in the army - to have time for everything in 60 seconds? So it's time to slow down and rest.

22. Too many "need" in your head? We must do this and that, must do this and this, must here and there … Beware, this is a sign that you are going the wrong way and in the wrong way.

23. All by herself. As soon as a desire arises in you to do everything yourself, because no one will do it normally, as soon as you start thinking about how sorry you are that you are only one, it would be better if you had at least two or ten, as soon as you stop asking for help and trust - you burn everything accumulated very quickly. Therefore, this is also a dangerous signal and a harbinger. Did you want to do everything yourself? Be ready to fill yourself intensively, too. Nobody will definitely do this for you.

24. Discussion and condemnation. Caught yourself washing someone's bones? Discussed the government, neighbors and stars, condemned everyone who is wrong? Consider that you have burned all your strength in one fell swoop. At this moment, you may even feel good and fun, and then complete devastation will come.

Did you see yourself at any of the points? Urgently for refueling. Urgently give yourself the opportunity to lie in the bath without feeling guilty, find an opportunity to walk in nature, and better alone, read a book, watch a movie.

Do something pleasant and useless in everyone's understanding - because in fact, this is the most useful thing. And if you ignore this most useful thing for the sake of a more socially approved one, expect trouble.

Often girls who have lived for several years without any fuel, in the "must-must-must" regime, working from morning till night without days off, think that all this stress can be compensated for in two weeks of vacation. For a year you ruin yourself and your health with excessive loads, and then two weeks on the beach and as good as new. But it doesn't work that way.

I know a lot of cases when women were fired from such places that suck all their strength and … For a year or two or three they did nothing. Generally. We slept, ate, even at home we were too lazy to do something. Complete degradation? No. A symptom that they have overrun their own strength for several years ahead. And the body requires rest in such a categorical way. If you give it to him and do not feel guilty, over time the strength will reappear. Unless, of course, you fill yourself, take care, take care of and cherish. But it is better not to allow such situations.

Do not wait for a complete stop of the engine and all systems! As with a car, be mindful of yourself and take care of yourself all the time. And watch for alarm bells, watch for signs of your devastation. Remember, when you take care of yourself, you are also taking care of your loved ones! This is especially true for mothers who are accustomed to throw themselves away for many years and hope that in this way they can make someone happier.

Have you found at least one sign? Take care of yourself now. And if there is more than one sign? Put everything aside at once. And give yourself an ambulance. Published by econet.ru

Olga Valyaeva, chapter from the book "Healing a Woman's Soul"