2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
I am often approached by clients who do not have a personal life. They go on dates, chat on dating sites, attend events aimed at finding a partner. But all efforts are in vain. The process seems dreary and joyless. Serious relationship does not come out.
- How tired I am of being in the search! - says the client. “I’ll only meet a man and immediately see that we have no prospects.
- What happened to you during this meeting? I ask. - What did you feel?
- I was bored because I immediately understood everything. And more despair. Again, not that. Fatigue.
There is a beautiful scene on this subject in The Fisher King
The hero of Robin Williams says goodbye to the girl in front of her house. She explains for a long time why he cannot go to her for a cup of coffee (they will sleep and everything will end, she will feel like a fool, and in general she is tired of such situations). And he answers her: “It's no wonder you're tired. You have lived our entire romance in three minutes. But there was nothing yet. I don’t remember, for example, the most pleasant - the first kiss, which is the most pleasure for me”.
Very often the search for a partner becomes mechanical, turns into a routine. A man or a woman develops strict criteria and immediately dismisses inappropriate options. Maybe it really simplifies the process. But as a result, joy and anticipation, pleasant excitement, burning eyes, pleasure from small steps towards each other disappear somewhere.
But this is what gives us tone. Compliments, flirting, play, flirtation.
Ask yourself: What do you generally like about men or women, other than the prospect of sex or marriage? What turns you on, turns you on and inspires you. Maybe you are crazy about intellectual conversations. Or, conversely, love to laugh at silly jokes together. Maybe you get incredible pleasure from pair dancing or long walks in the city. Why deny yourself the pleasure of taking from another what you need?
Relationships are impossible to calculate. Life is unpredictable. There is only one thing left: to go in small steps where the road will lead.
Do not rush.
Let the feeling grow, form.
Communicating with people of the opposite sex is not with children and mortgages in mind, but because it is fun and interesting.
Enjoy flirting, starting a relationship, stage one, sweets and bouquets.
What's the difference - you get a marriage, you don't get a marriage?
Maybe a brick will fall on your head tomorrow. And your last thought will be “All the men are goats” or “All women are bitches”, not “Damn it, how we greeted the sunset yesterday”:)
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