Who Is A Schizoid? Features Of A Schizoid Character

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

The topic of this article is schizoids, schizoid personality dynamics, schizoid character. Very little has been said about schizoids on the Internet, but they are already beginning to talk about it. The information is revealed, and this topic is no longer stigmatized. For a long time she was under some kind of curtain like this, because the schizoid personality type is very versatile. Among schizoids, there are many people who are ashamed of their character, all the time asking themselves: "Am I really normal?"

So, let's talk about character traits. What is a schizoid? Does this have any connection with schizophrenia? "Shiza" at the beginning of the word and there, and there - denotes splitting. If schizophrenia is a splitting of the mind, then the schizoid is one of the parts of splitting, one of the splits.

A schizoid is a person whose main drives, values, needs lie in the safety zone. He is looking for a place, people and situations that are as safe as possible. A minimum of danger is the main drive of the schizoid. However, this does not mean that he does not want to make a parachute jump. No, in life they can be quite risky, but in relationships with people … they will not let you close to their soul. What if you hurt?

Often these are people who are characterized by some extremes: I want to be in a relationship - I do not want to be in a relationship, I am with you - I myself. By the way, this is the biggest conflict often among schizoids. It is a choice of distance in a relationship. These are people who know more about loneliness than others, because in the end they choose isolation. Their main defense is grooming and isolation. This is what psychoanalysis calls primary defenses, defenses of a lower order. But then the schizoid does not have to use high-order defenses, such as denial, displacement, etc., which are often used, for example, by narcissists. Schizoids see the picture as it is. They don't like her, they just leave. They do not have to defend themselves from the current situation, from the established relationship. They just go away. Here's a way to protect.

More often schizoids choose, of course, isolation than relationships. But sometimes they choose a relationship, and they can even build very long-term relationships. Schizoids become very attached, at first they build security for a long time, they enter into a relationship for a long time. But if they have already entered them, trusted the person, then the strongest attachment is formed, and they will no longer leave the partner. Although they are building, rather, object relations. Those in which the other is perceived as an object - you will do this for me, I will do it for you. Strongly personal, there is no such deep contact. No, it is possible, but as point fragmentary objects. Then the schizoid goes into himself again. He seems to be in a relationship, but he is not involved with all his soul in them, he just is. It is important for him that his partner is just there. I didn’t put pressure on him or control him, but he didn’t give up either. They want both emotional involvement and, at the same time, lack of control.

Schizoids are very sensitive to control. On the one hand, it seems that they control the other person (but this is not control, although it looks so from their side). Schizoids are very sensitive to different shades of emotions, experiences, they have such a built-in radar that they want to be abandoned, left, or that they are no longer interesting to someone. Very strong sensitivity for these distances. That is, if a partner thinks to move away from him, the schizoid already knows this. And if we talk about control, then the schizoid has it at this point. It is important for him to understand - you are with him or you are not with him. If not with him, he will not hold you. He will leave faster than you.

About the fact that schizoids are worried about their own normality or abnormality. In fact, there are more schizoids than is commonly believed. And little is said about them on the Internet because of the feeling that they are in the minority. They talk about schizoids somehow very quietly and as if about sexual minorities. People with other character traits do not really understand them, and because of this schizoids feel very well other schizoids. Understanding is very important and valuable for them. If you have experiences in your life like theirs, this will be a point of contact for them. The point where some kind of shared experience will be possible.

What else is splitting in a schizoid? For example, he may outwardly appear very detached. But at the same time, it is very sensitive to track subtle details in the situation between people in space.

It is also interesting that when schizoids communicate in society, they notice feelings or experiences, or some things that other people may miss. Relatively speaking, communicating in a company, a person sees that a metaphorical elephant appears in the room. And people talk about completely different things. And then the schizoid becomes uncomfortable, he asks the question: “Have people agreed not to talk about this elephant? Is it not customary to talk about this elephant? Is there something I don't understand or don't understand? " And this is what causes social complexity in schizoids. Why is it very difficult for them in companies, often they have to? Because he sees more than others see: “Why are we talking about the weather when there is an elephant? Guys, there's an elephant! Have you noticed? " This is what happens inside him. And then these talks about the weather are simply meaningless for him. He does not understand why they talk about the weather when there is an elephant.

Schizoids also defend themselves by going into fantasy. They often write books, go into different creativity, paint pictures. They sublimate energy at a very high level. To some extent, schizoids also have fantasies of omnipotence. But they are not like narcissistic people. There, fantasy is more likely not in its own grandeur, but in some kind of fusion. I influence you, you influence me, so I thought about you like this, and that's why you then told me this, and you told me this so that I would think like this later. This is a fantasy of such total unity, rather, as compensation, of inner loneliness. Because a schizoid, even if he is in a relationship, still very often feels very lonely.

It is melancholy inside him. And due to the fact that schizoids are not attached to everyone in a row, it is very difficult for them. They enter a relationship very slowly, but then they become attached strongly and deeply. Accordingly, they have not 20 people in their environment, but, for example, 4. For them, the loss is much more difficult to experience and more painful to bear than for other people. Because if he lost one of his four friends, relatives, then he lost 25% of his environment, that is, he lost a quarter of his life. And, accordingly, they experience the departure, loss or death of loved ones much stronger, deeper, although outwardly they can manifest themselves, again, detached, emotionally turned off. And inside, at the same time, to struggle with some almost affective feelings.