THOSE ARE NOT TAKED INTO A COSMONAUT OR WHY DARCISSIS DO NOT LIKE BUDDHISTS

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Buddhists say that life is suffering. And suffering is something that needs to be overcome. But life does not stop with the disappearance of suffering. Hence, suffering is the preamble of life

A person has a special organ in order to experience suffering, he is no longer fit for anything else. Although it is better to say not an organ, but a set of certain serving functions. We are talking about the most superficial layers of identity, about those masks and roles with which we are forced to cover some undifferentiated emptiness. Therefore, as long as this emptiness frightens, a person is forced to feel himself alive only through suffering.

A person experiences suffering whenever the world around him damages his identity. Suffering is self-doubt. When the mask, which I have been attaching to my forehead for so long, shrinks and lags behind the epidermis, and for some time I cease to understand how it is connected with me. Suffering is a moment of a very sharp prick by the question - who am I? The horror of what will happen if this mask falls off forever. The horror is so unbearable that we strive to squeeze back into it, at the same time casting a gloss on its outer, world-facing side.

The horror is quite understandable. All life in general is aimed at overgrowing with layers of identities of various kinds. Everything so that the answer to the question - who I am - is as fast as possible. Life is an evacuation from emptiness into the familiar and habitable space of role behavior. Therefore, in who I consider myself, it is necessary to be impeccable so that no bitch doubts otherwise. Therefore, suffering is therapeutic because it creates a kind of disturbance in the frozen air.

The deeper and more significant the mask is, the greater the amount of suffering it can accumulate in itself. The more valuable this or that way of seeing ourselves is for us, the more destructive its vibrations will be for us. And at some point, a feeling may arise that it is generally impossible to live without a certain center of identity. That the loss of this conditional point is capable of stopping the process that generated it. The classic narrative, in which the dynamics of the narrative obeys a beautiful or not very ending, breaks down and then the reference point for movement disappears.

This devalues life somewhat, making it result-oriented, which in turn is a priori unstable. And the result, which exists by itself and is beyond the reach of hesitation, has nothing to do with life.

In this sense, a person can accumulate a sufficient number of skills in order to successfully defend against encroachments on his territory. He can build solid boundaries between himself and what threatens his self-image, come into contact only in a proven format, or even better - showing himself in the world only by that part of himself that belongs to the "frontal armor" and is practically invulnerable. The other extreme of helplessness is heroism and the desire to respond to any challenge, strengthening in their preferences and fears. Such a strategy is catastrophic for at least two consequences: first, it narrows the repertoire of behavior too much, making it the main value and task of control rather than development and search for new opportunities. Secondly, defense is initially entwined with defeat, and the more energy is invested in it, the more terrible a situation can become in which it turns out to be untenable. True, some manage to die before this happens.

It seems that the described feature - the inability to trust oneself and what is happening - is characteristic of the narcissistic organization of the personality. Such people need to create around themselves a certain loop of redundancy, when what is is clearly not enough. In order to feel good and to stop at this, you always need some little more, the absence of which poisons life, or rather devalues it from the position of “either all or nothing”. Suffering - the need to plunge into one's own insignificance and demonstrate it to others - accompanies the narcissist constantly, making his life very difficult.

Narcissistic personalities In this regard, they are often preoccupied with the search for the meaning of life, because the meaning gives the understanding that his life is worth something, since it does not happen just like that, but in order for quite certain things to happen in it. Then the meaning is understood as the degree of correspondence to something, rather than a measure of pleasure from what is happening. The meaningfulness of life, in my opinion, is experienced as a result of full inclusion of oneself in this process, when one can rely on and use everything that is available to awareness. In the opposite case, the desire to find the best, devaluing the good, cuts the whole spectrum of possibilities to a miserable set for achieving utilitarian goals. And then the search for a ready-made meaning leads to the fact that following it does not bring satisfaction. The search for meaning as a way of meaninglessness is quite suitable for those who think that there is not enough meaning for everyone and therefore it is necessary to come running to the spiritual sale first in order to snatch the most unkempt secondhand rag there at first glance.

A well-made sense reliably protects against disappointments, increases immunity to troubles, allows you to always know the exact answer to the question of what is good and bad. The lack of meaning allows you to touch confusion and due to this, as well as due to the absence of evaluative concepts, it only increases the sensitivity to the direction, understood as one's own and the only one. And, perhaps, stupid and wrong.

The narcissist experiences someone else's meaning as his own … The dependence of the narcissist on those around him is that the latter feed his artificial meanings, restore them and re-paint them so that they do not wear out over time. The narcissist does not know who he is to himself and therefore he becomes someone else. Thus, it is impossible to move away from the reference environment, since the experience of oneself as existing and significant depends on proximity to it. Any distancing is first accompanied by a feeling of shame, as a sign of realizing oneself, and then, with further distance, panic fills the narcissist's consciousness, since it is not clear what to do with this detection. Therefore, the only way to contain anxiety is to follow the “I am what I do” program.

Since it is very difficult to find oneself, the identification of one's needs rather occurs through the construction “I don’t want”, through the violation of boundaries, than through the recognition of any need. That is, in order to indirectly understand what I want, it is necessary to make contact blindly, skipping the precontact phase, not understanding anything about myself and not informing others about what they would like from them. Such contact is accompanied by frustration and frustration accompanies a newfound understanding of need.

The idea of getting rid of suffering is that no weapon in the world can harm the very experience of existence, since only the products of this process are vulnerable to it. Only death can do something really important for you. Existence is known to precede essence. Essence is always less than existence. In other words, whatever suffers simply refers us to the place where suffering ends. This is its main function.

Suffering cleans like a cook's knife cutting a vegetable. Suffering occurs in complete loneliness, because the usual supports no longer support and who you thought you were, for a while disappears from the monitoring monitors. This is the most rewarding time in your life. Fruitful in the sense that at this time it is impossible to actually do anything, and then you just have to be

When one layer of identity disappears, a person habitually looks for support in another, more fundamental, or, one might say, parent in relation to the disappeared one. It is important to find yourself in something, to be convinced of your presence in at least some quality, as if existence needs to assert itself. Therefore, the best defense is not to resist re-identification.

Identity is needed mainly to create difference. So that a buddha, accidentally meeting another buddha on the road, does not confuse him with himself. Therefore, we can say that I do not need identity either. It only allows you to look at other people, since it is widely known that the image is structured by the beholder. So, if you meet a buddha, kill the buddha, do not increase the number of illusions in the world.

The idea of getting rid of suffering is that the actual procedure of “getting rid of”, on the contrary, makes it even more sophisticated in its manifestations. Suffering occurs when the mask separates from the skin and persists until there is enough distance between them to stop considering the mask itself. We can say that the mask itself suffers, since it loses its power source and is doomed to oblivion. Suffering is pain that marks the beginning of life.

If suffering is extinguished at its very beginning, then it will not go anywhere, such is the paradox.

Stop suffering - it means to be able to experience episodic identifications without identifying with them to the end and not bringing them closer to themselves at such a distance from which they begin a raider seizure of the individual experience of being. Trust a process that can spawn monsters, but cannot irrevocably become them. Be invulnerable to any weapon that is simply unable to detect its target. Keep your masks clean by carefully treating parasites before using them as directed. Do not wear other people's masks. Do not rent out masks. And, if we have already mentioned daffodils - in no case should the masks be inherited.