BE YOURSELF! LIKE THIS?

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

“Be yourself” - these words inspire and fill with pride from a sense of your own value, uniqueness and from the right to be so! Joyful anticipation of happiness and freedom! But in order to be yourself, you must first know yourself. Answer the question: "Who am I?" And, it seems, just stretch out your hand, the answer is near. After all, I am always by my side! You just need to look inside and everything will immediately become clear. It remains to complete all the important things and urgently address this issue. And so day after day, year after year. Life is going. And suddenly, chilling the soul, the question: "Who are you, do you live your life, do you fulfill your destiny?"

So, be yourself like this? Am I someone else now? No, it seems to be myself, but as if not completely, there is still something very important that constantly escapes my attention. This is where self-doubt, inner emptiness and a sense of inferiority come from. Of course, I know something about myself, and as a rule, good, the way I like to be. Of course, I have drawbacks, and I am perfectly aware of them! For example: “I am lazy and in the morning I cannot get up when the alarm rings, I also have a weak will, and I cannot deny myself a piece of candy. Also, I am not punctual and am late everywhere. Oh, horror, horror, I have so many flaws! But they are so cute and not scary at all.

But there is such a Me, which I do not like myself, and I do not want to know such myself. To be so ashamed! And it's also scary, because for this no one will respect, love, which means they will definitely turn their backs on me. Even me! I reject this myself. But this is precisely the truth that is necessary in order to be yourself completely and rely not on a part, but on the whole of yourself. It is important to accept yourself without judgment or judgment, on the simple basis that I am a human being. I'm not perfect! I can be afraid and commit selfish and insidious acts, show cowardice and offend. Be weak and helpless in front of your instincts and weaknesses and follow their lead. I can get angry and hurt the people I love. I can be wrong and be irresponsible. And even in what I call “good,” there may be a selfish implication, and the discovery of this is very disappointing. I can be a failure and in some matters very childish, naive and confused. But that's all I am!

When I know myself, different, and "white" and "black", then I can rely on myself. Since I know that in this situation, for example, I am most likely to crush and therefore I will be able to do something in advance to reduce the negative consequences or not take up this matter at all, so as not to let anyone down. And in this place, I am very weak and vulnerable, so it would be very appropriate to ask for protection and support. I believe myself because I know myself. I know how to be with myself and I will explain this to other people who are important and valuable to me.

It is important here to have courage to meet real yourself, so as not to live with illusions about yourself. And also kindness to accept oneself as good and bad, to be with oneself both in sorrow and in joy … Do not betray or abandon yourself in difficult moments of your life.

But this will not be the whole truth about yourself. Only the first step is meeting your Shadow.