2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
I am asked dozens of questions in different versions about how to understand what a man loves? Knowing many male stories about love and dislike, relying on information from those men who have worked with me and are in good contact with themselves, know themselves, feel confident, loving, in a relationship or ready for a relationship - I have created an approximate list of those indicators, qualities and states in which a man knows what he loves and is loved. Naturally, every man will have his own points, remarks, additions or disagreements, and this is normal. Therefore, I suggest that men simply add in the comments their personal knowledge about their male love, which is so necessary for understanding women.
1. I'm glad. They are glad to see and hear me, to be near, to walk with me - this allows me to approach you.
2. I am accepted. They accept in different moods without turning away, without picking at me and are present nearby - literally. It gives me the opportunity to relax and open up.
3. I am asked: about an act, an action, a gift, not paying attention to any of my reactions. My reaction, this is just my reaction, it has nothing to do with you, it comes from the state I am in, (I can be in a different mood, I don’t need to dig out the reason in me, I don’t want to explain this and I don’t have to). This gives me confidence in my strength and actions.
4. They talk to me about everything they want: about moods, affairs, plans, desires, events, failures, regardless of how much I emotionally support the conversation, I can be included in it, I can be removed, but I hear. When I listen to you, I immediately begin to think about what I can do in this. If I have nothing to do, I am removed, if I hear that you feel bad, I think how I can personally fix it. This means that they trust me, it gives me confidence in myself.
5. I need simple directions, requests that say exactly what, when, where, how much, it simplifies the execution, because I doubt what I can do wrong. I'm not stupid, I save energy spent on unnecessary thinking and guessing, it exhausts me, I start to doubt the correctness of the action, it weakens me, I get angry from weakness, (that's why I start to get angry when I need to guess, guess, guess it is not known about what). This gives me faith in myself and my strength, the desire to do for you what you want and I can.
6. I need to know how you are with me. I know this from your words and reactions, if I only see irritation, I understand that you feel bad with me, if I see joy on your face, I understand that you feel good with me. I need to see and hear a living woman, in any of her emotions and moods, they do not scare me, they give me information, thanks to which I decide whether action is needed or not. This gives me a system for setting behavior and actions in your address.
7. I love sex, but more, I love your desire for intimacy, I want to see it in gestures, facial expressions and hear in words, I love tenderness. It gives me access to feelings that are stored deep inside, it is very personal, intimate, and I will not always show it, I will say, but I feel and remember it very well.
8. I need care, simple ordinary human concern without patronage and crawling inside me (as if you know me better than myself), without self-sacrifice and heroism (I don’t need your exploits and torments), namely at the level of what I love, but you want and can. If I love tea, I am pleased that you have prepared this tea for me and for me. It gives me a feeling of warmth, relaxation next to you.
9. I sometimes need peace, silence, loneliness, this gives me time to think about my actions, analysis, recovery and readiness for further actions in life. It gives me confidence and confidence.
10. I have aggression, I can be angry, I can break if I go to the gym or go to football with friends - I will do it there, if I don’t go anywhere, I can do it next to you - don’t provoke me. Aggression, the state in which I am an animal, sometimes I need to be an animal, reaching the source of strength and freedom.
11. I feel, but I don’t always share it, I don’t express it in words, I can show it in my actions and until you tell me what you want, I don’t know where and in what to direct my feelings.
12. I am often not confident in myself, for various and sometimes beyond your control. To regain confidence, I need time and resources. Sometimes, to regain confidence, I do stupid things that I might regret later, but they have already been done, so I try to move on. You don’t need to endlessly return me to them as a reminder, I have a good memory. The more you remind me of my mistakes, the more angry and less confident I will become. This will alienate me from you and diminish my desires for you.
If I am not at all like that and with me is not the same as stated above, I am not your man or I am broken. If I'm not yours, you don't have to lie and play with me. If I am broken, you cannot fix me, I will do it myself, if I need it and I want to be with you. A simple conclusion can be drawn about me, if I want to be with you and am with you, I want to do for you - I love. In all other respects, I am the same as you, a person, with feelings, dignity, feelings and fears, and I know this very well - there is no need to convince me otherwise.
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