2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Protest? Fear? And, for sure, there are many other negative feelings…. the same thing happens with most people … unfortunately
Ideally, this phrase should cause a surge of drive, joy and strength in you. But the fact is that from childhood almost all of us were brought up in a certain way, according to the foundations of society, we were limited and many things were forbidden. We were raised in a family, at school, in society. And they were "brought up" in such a way that a person is enslaved by himself, in his head. It is very beneficial for the system when a person is deprived of his I, and it is better to generally have high goals and the will to achieve them. We were brought up in such a way that we control ourselves and set the limits ourselves. Surely you often ask yourself: am I doing the right thing / am I doing the right thing? What will people say? Will I hurt someone? And you ask yourself other similar questions.
So we have to adjust to life, look for our quiet corner, and from our youth prove our personal value to the whole world.
But after all, man was born into the world in order to rule over it, to take from life everything that it can offer. Man is born to live for himself and put his interests first. As the Bible says: save yourself and many around you will be saved.
And now an important clarification. Here we are talking about healthy egoism, but there is also sick egoism.
Sick selfishness is when:
- a person believes that the world owes him everything in the world and is very indignant when he does not receive what he wants. Usually spoiled children behave this way - a very vivid example.
- a person lives as a consumer and parasitizes on everything he can get at both on the material level and on the subtle level. He walks over his head and tries to snatch for himself the benefits that have fallen into the field of vision.
- there is no awareness. The sick egoist is not aware of himself, or his true desires, or the actions he performs.
- the concept of "responsibility" is completely absent. There is no willingness to take responsibility for words and deeds. Such people are usually cowardly on the inside.
- there is no self-love and self-confidence and self-confidence.
But healthy selfishness is as follows:
- a person knows the laws of the Universe and knows how to take everything he needs without disturbing the balance in the relationship between the person and the world. Note, TAKE, not snatch. Do you feel the difference?
- a person loves and respects himself. In the first case, he is rather trying to prove to himself and the world his great importance and he is driven by weakness. A healthy egoist is full of high dignity, which comes from self-confidence, self-confidence and calmness. At this level, the understanding comes that there is no point in fighting the world, you can mutually cooperate with it.
- life becomes more conscious. A healthy egoist knows what he is doing, why he is doing and what he wants to get as a result. He goes to his goal and does not listen to anyone, does not look back.
"If they spit in your back, know that you are ahead."
There is an anecdote that very clearly reflects the principles by which healthy and sick egoists live:
Large white birds were going to fly away to warm lands. And then a small gray bird flies past them.
- Flew with us to warm lands - said the big white birds.
- A-ah, We will fly over the ocean, you have strong wings, you can overcome the ocean, but I cannot!
- No, little bird, we will take you on our back and you will not die!
- Ah-ah-ah, said the little bird, we will fly high, you are big birds, you have warm plumage, but I’m not warm, I will freeze!
- You will not freeze a little bird, we will hide you in our warm plumage!
- Ah-ah-ah, said the little bird, you are big strong birds, you will be able to get your own food, but I will not be able to die!
- We will feed you, little bird!
-Ah-ah …
- Fuck you, little gray bird !!! - said the big white birds and flew away.
A small gray bird is small because it lives in a small world, with small goals, having achieved which it considers its life to be immensely successful, gets stuck at the level of desired comfort and so lives out its days. The little gray bird is always afraid of everything and worries about everything. There is too much fuss in her life.
With large white birds, everything is exactly the opposite. They know how wide the world is and what its resources are and stuff like that. They act on the principle:
Take what you love, otherwise you will have to love what you gave (Bernard Shaw)
So, be selfish! Know your worth and love yourself! If you have goals, boldly go to them and take from life everything that you need to achieve them (provided that there is awareness in life). Do not be confused that there will always be those who want to return you to the system, to equalize with the gray mass. Do not pay attention to them, in any case, such people are always unhappy with something, be it you, with your desires, or something else.
AND ONLY THIS WAY YOU CAN LIVE YOUR HAPPY LIFE, and not the life of your parents, relatives and completely strangers who are trying to impose something on you or reproach you for something
How to do it? How to become selfish and go beyond the framework imposed by the system?
To begin with, realize how deeply you have sunk in a state of "quieter than water, below the grass." It is better to contact a Mentor (psychologist, coach, guru, etc.) for this. He will help you realize all the restrictions that you have imposed on yourself, get out of the state of sacrifice, accept and love yourself.
Then we turn on awareness: we find out (with surprise) our true desires, designate our territory (into which no one has the right to access), set goals and turn on the "big white bird" mode.
We learn, living mindfully, to always ask ourselves the following questions:
Do I like (enter the necessary) or not?
Why do I need (enter the necessary)?
Do I really need it?
What do I get from this? What are my benefits?
Get in the habit of asking yourself and giving yourself healthy answers. Then self-criticism will disappear by itself and a feeling of contentment and calmness will appear (because you have heeded the vibrations of the inner world and followed the true Self … it is so nice!)
Learn to see your benefits …. always …. yes, always!
If they are still not there, then ask yourself why, then, am I doing this? HOW LONG will I still act to my detriment? Remember that if there are no personal benefits, then a person stops in development, because the balance of interaction with the world is upset.
ALWAYS set a time frame, so you will set the conscious boundaries of your altruism and avoid falling into the state of the victim, the feeling that they sat on your neck, as well as many diseases and stresses.
- well, do not hesitate to admit with pleasure and joy that selfishness is wonderful!:)
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