The Consequences Of Sexual Extreme

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2024-01-12 20:57

What should you keep in mind when deciding on radical sex experiments?

For the bdsm practitioner everything can be complicated by the fact that a loved one does not share his desires and even condemns or laughs. Therefore, often the one who has this tendency begins to look for a partner for himself on profile sites or in social networks. Consequently, one has to deal with almost strangers. In this case, a person, especially a submissive person, is very concerned about the topic of confidentiality. There is always a chance of attacking a fraudster, who will then blackmail with compromising evidence. There have been cases when people took their own lives for fear that these materials would be seen by their loved ones.

Another danger can be trauma.

It so happens that a person has violent fantasies about bdsm, gets excited from them and even has an orgasm. But when he is faced with reality, he may feel completely different for various reasons (there is no trust in the partner, a feeling of constraint, the actions of the dominant can be felt as very cruel, the degree of the experienced shame may turn out to be intolerable, to the extent that the person ceases to respect himself as personality, will begin to abuse alcohol, drugs). Thus, bdsm experiences can cause PTSD when this practice is in the nature of an obsessive repetition of trauma, rather than receiving emotional and sexual release.

In one of her letters, a young woman described her first bdsm experience as a nightmare, although she had previously found the fantasy arousing. In reality, everything turned out to be completely different.

"At one of the bdsm parties I was tied up, blindfolded, I found myself in darkness and only felt how different men who were present at that party were copulating with me, changing each other. Everyone behaved rudely with me, insulted me, could into me I felt like a garbage can, into which everyone poured their waste and took out their anger on me. A feeling of complete loss of security, immersion in the cold chaos of shame and humiliation. I was warned that all this can be stopped by calling a stop word, but I felt myself so insignificant that I preferred to freeze and just endure. I was ashamed to stop all this and again see the light, my face in it. When the orgy ended, I could not wash myself at home for a long time. I stopped feeling it, or at times it seemed to me that the body was not mine, but someone else's. To feel my body, I began to cut myself with a razor."

This experience can form a strong emotional and sexual dependence that outside of these relationships a person will not be able to function normally. Each time he will need more and more incentives, perhaps more violent.

If a person does not possess knowledge of anatomy, then it can easily cause harm to health and even death by negligence.

It is contraindicated to practice bdsm for people with mental disorders, alcohol intoxication, under the influence of surfactants.

The dominant is easier in this respect. Although sometimes he is not ready to inflict pain. Each person has their own boundaries of what is permitted, and overstepping them in an attempt to please or not show their weakness can lead to psychotrauma. Together with emotional dependence, this hobby can lead to a psychiatric clinic, due to the emerging confrontation of internal conflicts.

The mystery itself neurotizes a person when you have to hide your addiction from family members and friends.

The most ideal option is to legalize this type of sex by engaging in it with your partner (husband, lover), with whom you have a trusting relationship. If the relationship with your partner is cold, then there is a high probability that you will not get pleasure from sex with him or he will not want to understand your need.

If you have a rather warm and trusting relationship with your partner, then he may agree to experiment, if you do everything gradually, discuss your desires, fantasies, what you both liked and what did not.

Experiments of all kinds work best when both partners are sexually aroused. If it is not there, then experiments are perceived as an imposition to do what you do not want to do.

For example, a woman fantasized about vivid sex with a man by correspondence. But when she met him and on the first date he offered to "cum" in her mouth, needless to say that she had lost all arousal and the ability to orgasm.

Before any sex experiment, you need to discuss your desires, fantasies, fears with your partner, not to gloss over your discomfort. The degree of trust and feelings in a relationship is very important.

If a partner decides on sex experiments just to please, this can also lead to trauma. Make sure you both want it.

Sex experiments with unfamiliar partners with whom there is no mental contact, among other things, are fraught with the development of psychogenic disorders of sexual function (impotence, frigidity, vaginismus, coitophobia) and complexes.

Experiments such as sex-wifes, cuckolds, various forms of group sex can also cause discord in relationships, because, again, often fantasies do not coincide with the feelings that people experience when they are realized in reality.

So, in fantasies, a man drew himself exciting scenes of spying on how his wife had sex with another. But as soon as he saw his wife's correspondence with a work colleague in the messenger, a feeling of possessiveness flared up in him. If this man did not reflect on his feelings, then such an experiment could turn into a trauma for him or parting with his wife.

A woman after group sex in the style of FFM, on which her husband insisted, had the same dream for a long time, as he kissed another.

"The husband looked at her somehow especially" - this is the only thing that she learned from the experience that subsequently led to trauma and separation.

In general, when deciding on sex experiments with unpredictable consequences, it is necessary to consider any alternative options. Often for partners, to stir up passion in a relationship, a light version of bdsm or discussing their fantasies on this topic, flirting is enough.

Remember your physical and mental health!