2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Any emotion is the energy that arises in the body in order for it to do the work to satisfy the need.
If we feel irritated, anger, it means that our psychological or physical boundaries have been violated. Anger is a very powerful energy that aims to restore integrity.
People who live with the belief that it is extremely bad to feel anger suppress it at the first sign. And the emotion gets stuck in the body, encapsulating in a certain place and accumulating week after week, month after month, year after year. Due to the fact that the internal reservoir for storing emotions is limited, emotions cannot be accumulated indefinitely. They break out.
Or through periodic bright outbreaks - for example, hysteria, "causeless" tears or breakdowns.
Or in small portions, masquerading as more socially acceptable forms:
1. Unconsciously delaying, postponing the fulfillment of obligations and tasks.
2. Frequent delays.
3. Sarcasm, cynicism or insolence in conversation.
4. Criticism and negative assessment.
5. Frequent grievances
6. Devaluation of the interlocutor's opinion: "You are inventing everything!"
7. Excessive politeness, an attitude of patience.
8. Expression of contempt.
9. Interrupting the communication partner.
10. Frequent sighs.
11. Boredom, apathy, loss of interest in things that previously aroused interest.
12. Excessive irritability over trifles.
13. Feigned gaiety.
14. Restrained, monotonous voice.
15. Long periods of discouragement for no reason.
16. Facial tic, spasmodic body movements, habitual clenching of fists, etc.
At the physiological level, suppression of emotions, which requires energy expenditure, can be expressed as follows:
17. Difficulty falling asleep, difficult to sleep all night without waking up.
18. Rapid fatigue. Sleepiness at the wrong time.
19. Sleep longer than 8-9 hours.
20. Waking up with a feeling of fatigue rather than rest and freshness.
21. Jaws clenched, teeth grinding, especially during sleep.
22. Frequent terrible dreams.
23. Pain in the neck and neck muscles.
24. Stomach ulcer, problems with the cardiovascular system.
What if you find signs of anger suppression?
There are two directions of work:
- Stop suppressing and building up anger. Learn to see its function and use it for good.
- Free yourself from already accumulated anger.
To stop suppressing anger, it is important to separate the emotion itself from the way it is expressed. Recognize the importance of healthy anger for survival and achievement.
Very often, a person is afraid of condemnation and suppresses aggression, thinking that in this way he controls the situation. But it gets the opposite effect. Accumulating and not using his anger for its intended purpose, at some point he loses control over this emotion and the way it is expressed. "Still waters run deep" - this is about a similar situation. It’s even scary to imagine what the anger of someone who endured for a long time can pour out.
A more correct strategy:
- Recognize the feeling.
- Understand what it is connected with, what your boundaries are touched.
- Think about how you can restore justice.
- Taking action to satisfy the need.
After the end of the cycle, the emotion goes away.
As far as the already accumulated anger is concerned, there are many exercises that allow you to release it. For example, through physical actions. Dancing, stomping your feet, waving your arms, hitting your pillow, screaming. Choose what is more accessible to you in terms of execution.
This is a quick outline of what you can do about anger. It is not always possible to do it yourself. After all, if there is a ban on anger, it is not so easy to learn to recognize it. And even more so, to express. Then trainings on this topic or individual work with a specialist can help you. Contact us - I will be happy to help!
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