How Is It To Love Yourself?

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

We often hear the call "Love yourself!" and try to follow it. We love ourselves as best we can. Someone loves himself with a bitter mockery (just look at me, how can you not love such beauty?), Someone with show-off (I should have everything only the best and most expensive), someone carefully feeds himself tasty (so as the grandmother showed love), someone scolds or excessively exalts himself, running from the gallows and the pedestal. Everyone puts their own meaning in the beautiful word "love". But … what does it really mean?

Self-love is, first of all, a feeling that contains joy, tenderness, pride, pleasure, admiration, the desire to observe and be near, support and help. This is the desire to do something for yourself, to take care, to give gifts, to listen to the needs, to be interested in the riches of the inner world. It presupposes a special way of dealing with oneself - respectful, warm, patient, accepting. supportive, without the use of forbidden painful techniques.

To love yourself is to be as attentive to yourself as possible, to each of your states, to each internal rustle (the ability to penetrate, peer, listen, consider, that is, refrain from evaluations until you understand what kind of phenomenon, deed, thought or feeling in front of you). This ability to notice in oneself absolutely natural processes, "bad" or "unflattering", but so human … and treats them with respect. Encourage, not force. Negotiate, not accuse and issue ultimatums. Understand, not evaluate.

Self-love is about cultivating a habit, instead of being intimidated and ruthlessly criticized, to support, soothe, and cheer yourself up. Learn to recognize and reckon with reality (and not fill with special charm a non-existent possible ideal future), forgive your shortcomings, but deeply and sincerely believe in the ability to achieve what you want, realizing that this takes time, experience and work.

To love yourself is to give yourself the right to manage your life, to make sure not to deviate from the path chosen by your heart … it is constant study and work on yourself, being filled with inner light and energy.

Self-love is a developed habit to start every day with the words "good morning, darling!", And other heartwarming tenderness and wishes.

To love yourself is to hear the very first signals of your body, as light as the wings of a butterfly. Before going to bed or after waking up, mentally run with sharp fingers of attention from head to heels, tracking the relaxation and tightness of each muscle, trying to understand what it needs right now.

Perhaps it wants a glass of water or scratching its left knee … or lightly and tenderly touching its hair, stretching like a cat, hearing the desired breakfast dish in its hungry belly rumbling, or kissing a child's palm.

Self-love is the cultivation inside of an impeccably loving, accepting and wise mother who can easily distinguish the original, true and individual core of the personality from all the garbage accumulated over the years.