2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
If I do something that costs me a lot of effort, if I practically tear myself away from myself, sacrifice something, then I expect something in return. If not gratitude from the person for whom I am trying so hard, then recognition from the world, God and the omnipotent universe. Whether I realize it or not, I am awaiting a reward
Moreover, the reward can be expected not only for "good deeds", but also simply for suffering.
“Are you warm, girl? Is it warm to you red? " "Warmth, Frosty, warmth!" Get a reward, girl!
Suffered torment? - Suffered!
Did you suffer? - I suffered!
Get it! Necklaces, diamonds, gems. And a wonderful life with a good fellow.
"Suffering is a virtue" - this postulate is sewn into the culture of many countries and is the basis of the world's leading religions and beliefs. For suffering, they are canonized.
The worse the living conditions, the more difficult it is for citizens, the more suffering is elevated to the rank of virtue. “God endured and told us to,” said my grandmother, who survived dispossession, hunger and war. "Suffer, endure, and a reward awaits you for your torments." But having firmly fixed this postulate, the human mind decided that the opposite is also true: "If you want to receive something, you must suffer your happiness." "Suffering is the sure way to a brighter future."
As far as we remember, our bright future never came, and the selfless work of millions of people did not pay off.
For suffering, of course, canonized, but only after. After life is over. The reward will find a hero, but not during his lifetime.
It was only in fairy tales that Nastenka suffered and received a box with gems.
Oh, No! Not only in fairy tales.
I remembered cases when husbands give bracelets and rings for broken hands and knocked out teeth. Bestowed for suffering. Straight frost in the flesh. Who pounds, who freezes - whoever likes it more.
And so that for patience and suffering, bags of gems were presented, it was not necessary to meet.
But this belief is very strong. Up to the point that if you suffer and hurt for a long time, then something good must happen afterwards. Someone must give the girl a gift for suffering.
When I was the head of a charitable organization, I once heard a phrase, which I then fiddled with for a long time. A volunteer girl told me quite seriously and sincerely: “You have done so much good, you have gone through so much, you have suffered so much, you should return all this a hundredfold! You must have a lot of money. I was surprised. But I thought about it. I practically believed it. But what if? Suddenly, it really works like that. I am here Mother Teresa, and I have a house with a fireplace, a pool and diamonds.
Does not work. In order to have money, it must be taken from somewhere. Who gets it from where.
Money bags for suffering and good deeds do not materialize. It's a pity)).
Suffering itself has no value. It is a person's choice - to suffer or not to suffer. And if you suffer, then for what. It is good when this “for the sake of what” is clear and under control
It happens that people choose a heroic death in order to protect their compatriots. Or sacrifice themselves for the lives of children. But all these extreme cases have very little to do with our ordinary daily life.
It is all the more amazing how in ordinary peacetime, which does not require any extra effort in order to simply live, people manage to arrange for themselves an obstacle course, full of selflessness and suffering. Somewhere deep down, hoping for a reward.
But no matter how sad it is to admit, all "girls with matches" are rewarded only in heaven.
And in this real life, suffering is not appreciated. Moreover, they drive into debt those for whom all this is being done, and cause not gratitude, but anger. Like a loan that was imposed on you.
Perseverance, determination, sensitivity to oneself and the ability to take care of oneself are appreciated.
And the ability to love, make friends and just communicate without trying to save anyone.
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