Good - Comfortable Girl

Good - Comfortable Girl
Good - Comfortable Girl
Anonim

The worst thing that parents can do for their daughter is to raise her "a good girl." I'm not talking about decent, smart or responsible now. I say good. "Goodness" is the habit of being guided by other people's assessments, the fear of offending any bastard, the desire to see the best in every piece of shit. To be good - read, comfortable - is a heavy burden that many cannot get rid of all their lives

Good girls are very fond of adults. Kindergarten teachers, parents, primary school teachers. If you tell a good girl to finish her soup or porridge until the end, she eats it up, choking, so as not to upset the adults. And then, in adulthood, they do not understand why they have excess weight and the habit of eating more than the body needs. Yes, she does not hear her body, she is not accustomed. Accustomed to looking into the eyes of the teacher: am I full, or not yet?

A good girl doesn’t dare to be grown up. He does not speak rudely with them, and does not even speak on an equal footing: he only smiles, agrees, obeys. And when, at the age of 14-15, an adult uncle begins to cuddle up to her with a lustful grin, the girl cannot even answer - she has no skill. So he endures in horror, and will endure much more where it is necessary to firmly and loudly say: take your hands off quickly!

A good girl is only A's. Four is a tragedy for her. Over the years of her studies, she gets so used to focusing on the assessments of others that she continues to habitually live in nervous anticipation: how am I being evaluated? What do they say about me? Does everyone think I'm good? The girl wants to get A's from the world, like in school. But the adult world is arranged differently, he is stingy with praise and generous with cuffs. The girl suffers and drinks sedatives, if not something stronger.

A good girl tries to be comfortable for others, the most comfortable, more comfortable than worn house slippers. Pleasing, caring, self-sacrificing. But these victims are often not only not appreciated, but also considered a sign of weakness. And they use them without hesitation, what can I say. How many good, decent girls, brought up in the ideals of sacrifice, get into their husbands idlers, parasites and gigolos. And those, without hesitation, ride their wives, and even drive them with a whip.

A good girl is trained to endure. Do not distract adults from their important affairs with your trifling problems. Obediently wait for attention to be paid to her. She gets so used to enduring that it becomes her second nature, a way of life - to find suffering even where it is not. Even the girl cannot buy a new sofa for herself for years, she simply does not notice how her back and neck ache from the uncomfortable sleeping place. I just got used to suffering as a necessity.

Having good children is very convenient for adults. Good children are like flowers in pots, placed on the windowsills, are pleasing to the eye. But for life, being “good” is, alas, very bad. Then you have to get rid of "goodness" for a long time and with effort. So it’s better if they aren’t comfortable. But they will be brave, able to stand up for themselves, knowing their desires, needs and boundaries. Let them get used to evaluating themselves, and not looking into the eyes of teachers. Let, if necessary, be rude and fight back. Let them not be good. Let them be happy.

Morena Morana

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