2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
"Psychotherapy is impossible without pain and anger towards oneself," postulated the founder of Gestalt therapy, Friedrich Perls. And he was right in his own way.
The session with the psychologist is over, but it doesn't get any better. Rather, on the contrary, the symptom intensified, it became worse, there was a feeling of a dead end, a bottom. This is good. I'll explain now.
I am writing this publication for psychologists who are afraid of such an impasse. And I especially appeal to those Clients who are experiencing a deterioration in working with a psychologist and dump. 5 minutes before healing.
If after the psychologist's session it becomes worse - this is for the best
The ancient Chinese healers knew about this, who understood human psychology long before the emergence of this science, about thousands of 5000 years before.
"The disease enters the body through exacerbation, then becomes chronic. When the correct approach to treatment is selected, the disease leaves the body through exacerbation."
In other words, sometime in the past, an acute emotional experience remained in the body in the form of a psychosomatic symptom. Then, in the process of working with this "experience frozen in the body," he began to aggravate and / or the body began to resist changes in the status quo (which then saved, and now torments the person).
The client perceives this as a deterioration in the format:
- intensification of mental pain,
- exacerbation of psychosomatics (sharp urge to use the toilet, thirst, rash, changes in body temperature),
- feelings of impasse and powerlessness to overcome it,
- understanding that we have reached the bottom - there is nowhere to fall further,
- emotional emptiness
- sharp delineation or, on the contrary, blurring, blurring of the body clamp.
In short, you are getting worse and this is for the best.
Clients, be patient a little, endure this state. Do not stop therapy, otherwise you will drive the symptom or the problem itself deeper.
Psychologist, don't give up - continue therapy.
Strengthen the impasse, strain the tension over and over with an effort of will. Let the pain be.
Push off from the bottom and float up - swim to yourself new. Look at yourself from the outside.
Remember how during a cold there was a strong fever, it was bad - only a few hours, and then there was a sharp improvement.
Just as a virus can die only with an increase in body temperature and an aggravation of fever, so an aggravation of mental pain will lead you to the healing of your soul.
The pain will be replaced by relaxation and a feeling of joy. Everything. You have come this way. Together with a psychologist. Now you can smile.
How and when did you feel worse at first in order to feel better later?
P. S.: Often, in order to discover the true feeling, you need to strengthen the feeling that was noticed on top of it?
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