If The Horse Is Dead, Get Off It

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

The horse is dead - get off it. Or I'm afraid to change jobs …

Everyone faces the need to change their place of work. True, the frequency is different for everyone…. Someone has been working in one place for years. And someone is looking for something new every 6 months. This is not easy for everyone, especially if there is a need to change, in addition to the employer, the field of activity or profession

The longer we work within the framework of one company or one position, the psychologically more difficult it is for us to decide to look for a new job. There are several reasons for this:

1) What if it gets worse? Here everything is already familiar - the team, the range of responsibilities, the route to work … Everyone probably has a fear of change to some extent. In general, a healthy person is one who strives for something new, and a neurotic one - for a stable and eternal. And this fear of change is holding us back. As a result, we continue to go to work that is no longer interesting to us and are slowly degrading. Work becomes hard labor, but such a person may reason: "It is better to endure the known evil than to strive for the unknown."

2) Self-doubt, which is expressed in the fear of not finding a new job. After all, you will have to compete with a bunch of other specialists, prove the level of your professionalism, convince you that you deserve to take an attractive vacancy. And this is always a test - what if they don't appreciate me? what if I stay out of work for a long time? This fear is all the brighter, the smaller our financial cushion. After all, money, however, like everything in our life, tends to end.

3) How will I be accepted in the new place? - what kind of people will be there? And the boss? Or maybe I won't be able to cope with my new responsibilities? Have I done this before? What if I can't do it?

In my opinion, these are the main reasons. However, you can add your own, if you have them.

If you have such thoughts, the question arises - what to do with it?

I want to express my hypotheses, why these fears arise, and options for solutions. So,

"And if it gets worse ??"

As a rule, people with the sociogen "THEY -", that is, those who get used to a narrow circle, endure the most difficult changes in the situation. They find it difficult to interact with new people and take time to bond, trust, and feel comfortable. They are scared to change jobs, scared to go to interviews, it is difficult to join a new team, etc. These people are shy.

If this is about you - what to do?

I only know one way out - to go through my fear. Modesty and shyness are not qualities that are conducive to career development. Therefore, try, do, take small steps, the main thing - do not slow down! One interview, second, tenth. It will be easier each time.

And in order to have incentives to do all this, having a big goal will help. Do you have a strategic goal? What are you aiming for? According to M. E. Litvak, "only one path leads to a small goal, and many paths lead to a large one."

If it’s really scary to look for a job, try the option of “growing on the side” - all your free time (including work), devote to the development of your skills, do what interests you. Do something new and difficult. After all, you can't do the same thing for a long time!

“What if I don’t find a job?” - in fact, it is the lack of confidence in the level of their professionalism, or the inability to sell oneself.

First, take an inventory of who you are as a specialist today - what do you know? what can you do? what are your accomplishments in past jobs? What are you good at? what are your benefits?

Make these lists, focus on your strengths. If you are passionate about your work, if your job itself, your profession, is a great advantage for you. After all, there are very few enthusiastic people with burning eyes!

But in today's time it is not enough to be a professional, you also need to be able to show yourself as a professional, to present yourself in society, to show yourself advantageously to a potential employer.

To do this, package everything you wrote on your resume. And start actively promoting yourself in the labor market. No need to sit at the phone with the thoughts “Call me, call me!”, Call yourself, make your way to interviews, be persistent! And you will be noticed.

Expanding the sphere of their contacts will also help. After all, looking for a job when you are recommended is much easier. Visiting various professional get-togethers gives you the opportunity to get into those circles where you may be offered interesting projects. At least not using it is a sin.

"How will I be received in a new place?"

Two sources of fear can be distinguished here - the fear of getting used to new people. And fear of new challenges.

Again, the difficulties of adapting to new people and environments most often arise in people with the scenario "creative snob" (THEY -).

A little disorientation during adaptation is the norm. Therefore, study the rules by which the company lives, take a closer look at new colleagues, be positive. If you are focused on your tasks, immersed in the workflow, the adaptation will be faster. Just give yourself time! “Life is easy. If it is hard for you, then you live wrongly (ME Litvak)

The fear of new tasks, again, speaks of the lack of confidence in their professionalism. Which exit? Know yourself, your pros and cons. And of course, systematic daily work to develop your skills and personal qualities. A new task is always a challenge, a test. It is in the new and difficult our development.

It is also useful to learn to evaluate the quality of your work yourself, and get rid of the desire to please everyone. After all, when a new employee gets down to business, sometimes he wants to make an impression, to seem better than he really is. In fact, it is "standing on tiptoe." He grabs everything with zeal and enthusiasm. And it can burn out over time. Because standing on tiptoe is a lot of stress. Energy is spent not on business, but on tinsel.

Therefore, be yourself!

Briefly speaking, Take on new things!

Look for a job that suits YOUR goals and interests.

And if your horse, called “my job today,” is dead, you don’t need to revive it. Get off and change to another!

And if you yourself find it difficult to start taking these steps - we are waiting for you on the practical on-line cycle "How to sell yourself dearly?", Where we will take steps together with you to find a job of your dreams!