The Man And His Planet. Stop Training The Tiger

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Dear women, this article is addressed more to you than the stronger sex. Lately, they write too often and a lot, talk about disappointment, unjustified hopes, empty expectations and even outright hatred of men. You probably know why this is happening! From the illusions that we invent for ourselves and give them to our chosen ones. Instead, I propose to UNDERSTAND men and plunge into their world, another, very different from ours.

From early childhood, boys are only expected to win, successes, and achievements. Throughout their lives, they are forced to constantly prove their worth and deserve respect. Just imagine for a minute how difficult it is for a person from whom the whole world expects and constantly WANTS something! You can object and give an example of how women selflessly give birth, raise children, work, take care of the house, etc., however, no one demands this from us, all these are exclusively our desires and needs. Accordingly, we do all of the above primarily for ourselves, encouraging our ambitions or far-fetched obligations to society - so that "like everyone else" and "no worse than everyone else." For a woman, the state of stability, certainty and feeling "forever" is super important. A man is created in a completely different way, he is extremely frightened by routine and the impossibility of improvisation, lightness, freedom. Without a sense of freedom and space of options, a man either withers away or begins to lead a double life (lovers, traveling companies for several days, secrets). However, sooner or later, the secret becomes clear and both begin to suffer in the family, plus children, if any.

What does a man need to be happy? In addition to freedom, it is important for him to live in the state of a human researcher. Recently walking along the embankment, I saw a toddler of about two years old who walked away from his dad and brother, when I passed them, I asked if he was going far? To which she received a very wise answer from his father: "Let him go and explore the world!"

A man, even the smallest, will choose the measure and distance of his travel, do not hesitate, just TRUST. As soon as he feels your trust, he will certainly return in a good mood, satisfied and able to love. If a man is "kept on a leash", constantly monitored, then sooner or later a plan of escape from forced, alien circumstances will ripen inside his consciousness.

Love a man, stepping aside a little, watching him from afar, and you yourself will notice how he will change, how he will become stronger, more confident. You will only benefit from this. Only in this state is he able to be filled with love and respect for you.

More men than women come to my consultations, something like this happens, I don't know why. Although, I think, the Universe gives me a chance to get to know their outlandish and a little strange world through them. I, too, more than once in my life was disappointed, offended, there were many painful events and situations created (as it seemed to me before) by men. However, in the process of studying this beautiful and strong part of humanity, I understood and accepted many things that I had not even thought about before. They also suffer, they also tend to self-digging and self-destruction, perhaps even more so than us women. There is only one important difference - we "dump" all our torments on our beloved, he grinds both his own and ours on his own. How? Sometimes using alcohol, but as you wanted, he also needs to cleanse himself of the negativity, which he plunges into every day. At home, he would feel peace and the opportunity to recover, but often there is no such opportunity, then he leaves … some where, some into his inner world, some into another life, for a while or forever. Those who resign themselves to their fate simply turn into couch husbands who are overwhelmed with female passions and whose "wings" of activity have fallen off, carrying them to new knowledge and victories.

With our own hands, actions, words, we kill every desire in men to be strong, we level their purpose, turning them into domestic cats, incapable of great male deeds. You can argue that he was like that when you met (got married), then I have a question for you: "Why, seeing such a man, did you marry him?" Any hopes that “I will make it, I will block it to my taste and color” - lead to tragedy, there are only two options, either you accept the man as he is, or go by and look for the one that suits you. There is no third! Of course, it happens that a woman sees potential in a man and he opens up faster and more successfully with her, but this is a completely different story, because the presence of that very potential is necessary in this case.

What to do and how to give men a chance to live a fulfilling and happy life? You just need to be a couple in which everyone walks alongside and everyone does their own life. Of course, you can have common plans and projects, one does not cancel the other.

Now, ask yourself, dear women: "Would you like to be expected something from you every day, and when they come home they demanded your diary in order to put a mark in it that assesses your worth?" I think no. Therefore, just walk next to your loved one, trust his intuition and strength, believe in him, let him be free so that he can fully and joyfully explore the world. Then, when he returns, he will definitely share with you his gifts and amazing discoveries!

Love to all!