2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Olga (name changed, permission to publish received) 42 years old, wealthy, married, have children, she turned to me about pain in the abdomen. She had already undergone medical examinations, but neither the gynecologist, nor the therapist, nor the surgeon found anything. will turn to a psychologist. With this request Olga knocked on my Skype.
"The pain is unbearable! The pills do not help," she said.
"Let's explore your pain. Place your hands where the pain is. And imagine it."
What color is it?
What size?
Is it cold or warm?
What do you feel when you look at her? - I instructed Olga.
"These are stones with sharp edges. They cut my stomach. It hurts a lot," Olga replied.
"Ask, Olga, these stones what they want from you." - I asked the client.
“Freedom and harmony!” Olga said in surprise.
"What does freedom mean for them? How should it look? Check the image of your pain." I asked Olga.
"They don't want to live with my husband. They hate him! I can't stand him either. I already thought to divorce, but I'm afraid to be left alone. I never thought that this could affect me so much!" - Olga was surprised.
“Ask the image of the pain what needs to be done to make it go away,” I said.
"She takes care of herself and her children. Think about herself. And the stones are gone!" - Olga was surprised.
“What or who has now taken the place of stones!” I asked the client.
"Fairy from the movie about Cinderella! She hugs me and there is no pain!" - Olga said.
“And what is Olga's relationship with your mother?” I asked.
"Terrible! If not for her, I would not have gotten married!" - said the client indignantly.
“Did your mom insist on your marriage?” I asked Olga.
"No! But she constantly said that a decent woman should be married! I have heard this phrase since I was five, and maybe even earlier. Mom hates unmarried people. She says that they are very dangerous," Olga said.
“Is mom married?” I asked.
"Yes! Dad is kind and cheerful. He has many friends and acquaintances. And mom does not approve of this," Olga replied.
“So, if you divorce your husband, you will become“dishonest”?” I said.
“Yes! And my mother will hate me!” - Olga began to cry.
“And to be“dishonest”, what does it mean for you?” - I continued to ask the client.
"It's a shame! It's a shame that you are alone!" Olga continued to cry.
“Do you have single ladies you know? How do they live? Are they unhappy?” I asked Olga.
"Yes! They live well! They are happy! Children are raised, they work, no one humiliates them!" - Olga continued to cry.
“Does your husband humiliate you?” I asked.
“He constantly says that without him I would be lost,” the client replied.
“Are you working?” I asked a clarifying question.
"Yes! The head of the department. And I bought an apartment and a car. And everything is not enough for him!" - Olga began to cry again.
"So you don't depend on your husband financially?" I asked.
"No! He came for everything ready! And I realized it just now!" - Olga stopped crying.
“What does your Fairy Godmother think about this? Ask her.” - I advised Olga.
"She said:" Be yourself! Live for yourself and your children! "It became easy for me! There is no pain! These are my fears! Thank you!"
“It happens!” I said.
Olga decided to undergo long-term therapy and work out the relationship with her husband and mother.
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