Sympathy. Compassion. Empathy. Where Is It And Where Are You?

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Video: Sympathy. Compassion. Empathy. Where Is It And Where Are You?
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Sympathy. Compassion. Empathy. Where Is It And Where Are You?
Sympathy. Compassion. Empathy. Where Is It And Where Are You?
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From people close to us, we waiting for sympathy at an unpleasant moment for us. When we were offended, humiliated and insulted, we want empathy. To share our grief over loss, we waiting for compassion.

If you share your own suffering with others, then according to the laws of arithmetic, it will decrease, there will be more chances to cope with grief. Sympathize it means striving to show compassion for him or her, to live and experience a painful event together.

If I want empathy, empathy and compassion, then I know what it is. How do I know this? From personal experience.

In early childhood, the first adversity, fears, anxieties and broken knees were a signal for significant adults to show sympathy and compassion for me. Together with me, significant adults experienced my childhood grievances and quarrels with peers.

And this means, having experienced pain, suffering, injustice, I received support from those who were close and dear to me.

I gained this experience and I know how a person feels if he is offended, humiliated, insulted. Knowing this, I sympathize with him. As an adult, having entered into a relationship, I will empathize, empathize and compassionate with my partner. I will treat the people around me in the same way.

We agree that this is natural.

And now Imagine that I have never received sympathy, compassion, and no one has ever empathized with my adversity. This does not mean that I grew up without parents. Now there are enough prosperous families in which the child is cold.

I don’t know, so I don’t have personal experience

If I do not know what empathy, empathy and compassion are, then can I understand what is happening to my loved one now? No! Will I be able to sympathize with him, help him survive grief and loss? No!

He or She expects understanding and sympathy from his partner, but does not receive.

- I feel bad now, - She says.

- It seems to you. Don't think about it, - He answers.

It can be the other way around, because both boys and girls in childhood are equal in the face of circumstances and are dependent on adults.

Bottom line. Before you take offense at a person from whom you expect sympathy, empathy and compassion, find out, and he experienced this in his life? Have he ever been sympathized with, empathized with?

Do you think you can learn to empathize, empathize and be compassionate?

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