FEAR TO BE YOURSELF

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FEAR TO BE YOURSELF
FEAR TO BE YOURSELF
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From childhood we are taught how to behave, how to dress, how to speak. Already at an early age, we are forbidden to experience basic emotions with which a person is born, such as fear and anger. Girls are taught to be kind by reassuring that girls should not be angry and show their anger. Boys are taught not to be afraid, which is essentially impossible, since fear is one of the most important emotions for analyzing the situation and a plan for further action. A person with a suppressed feeling of fear often finds himself in situations leading to death, or provokes them, for example, engages in an unequal battle in which there is no chance of winning.

As a result, children turn into adults with a lot of repressed and unconscious emotions. A person feels bad, he feels a lump in his throat, but he cannot explain what kind of emotion he has. How often have you failed to understand the true nature of your emotions? We were taught to wear masks and told how to be a person. But while we were learning this, we forgot to find out who we are, or rather, we were simply not allowed to do this.

How often have you asked yourself who I am, what am I? What do I really want? What is important to me? It was me, and not those who told me what I should (a) do and get involved in.

Do you often come to the conclusion that you are not doing what you want, that you are living without satisfying your needs? Do you often have to fulfill the requests of others to the detriment of your deeds, and then feel overwhelmed?

If you answered “yes” to more than 2 points, then there is no doubt that you have a lot of unconscious emotions and you do not know your true needs and capabilities.

Parade of persons.

When we first meet, we always put on masks and communicate with each other from our own person, and not from our own person. Fortunately, over time, the masks are removed, and the true face (personality) of the person is exposed. But you can often observe a picture that as soon as people become close enough to take off their masks, they are tormented by a wild fear of not being liked. Escaping from this fear, girls begin to please their partners in every possible way, showing truly maternal custody, which in general is destructive behavior and leads to a breakdown in relations or adultery on the part of men, since you cannot build a sexual relationship with a mother.

This is one of the reasons for many failures. Men can also run away from fear they will not like: they either withdraw into themselves, which makes them cold in relations with women, or, on the contrary, cater to all women's whims indiscriminately, forgetting about themselves, thereby turning from men into slaves of women's desires and, accordingly, not about what kind of normal relationship with such a model of behavior is out of the question.

So why are we so afraid of ourselves? Is it because we are bad or unworthy? If such thoughts have visited you, then you are definitely in the illusion and misunderstanding of your true I. After all, when a person knows himself, knows all his strengths and weaknesses, he, as an adult and self-sufficient person, will choose a partner for himself in accordance with his needs, and with his part will respect the needs of the personality of his partner. Harmony with yourself is nothing more than understanding your true Self. Then communication with people goes to a new level.

You will never deserve someone's love and will build relationships not with a person, but with a person - respect and mutual understanding will be the basis of these relationships, and you will not have to be afraid of your true face, because it is beautiful.

When working on meeting the needs of a person's personality, it is a great pleasure for me to see how the relationships of men and women with themselves, with each other and with others are changing, how their lives are changing and how their personalities are flourishing.

I sincerely wish you to be in harmony with your Self.

I hope this article was helpful to you.

With love, psychologist Victoria Kammerer

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