Childhood Reasons For Being Overweight Or Mom Is To Blame

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

When I see another mom buying fries for a chubby girl, I feel sad. After all, there is a huge possibility that the girl will carry her large body through her whole life, without understanding the true reasons for being overweight. She will try many diets, spend an incredible amount of money on drugs that guarantee quick results, hate herself after another breakdown, spend her whole life unsuccessfully struggling with hotly hated kilograms … but she will never be able to accept her one and such unfamiliar body. Justifying itself with genetics, weakness and heavy bones.

And without even assuming that the source of her suffering is a caring hand buying crispy potatoes and a cake with fat cream. After all, first of all, the mother is responsible for the future of her daughter, making a conscious choice or not, even if she does not think about its consequences.

Choosing to give your love only through food. Because this was done by her mother or grandmother, for whom the unconditional value of the hungry times was the only thing that made her survive. And that she passed on by inheritance, into new generations, not considering that times have changed long ago. And the habit of loving through "feeding" has already taken deep roots. A girl who is eager to receive the love of her parents has no choice but to accept it at least in this way. She needs love so much …

Mom can feed her baby something tasty when she is unable to cope with his strong emotions. “Did you hit? Take a candy, my sweet one, and everything will pass. And the girl will continue to take the candy when the guy leaves her … she gets fired from her job … someone steps on her feet … and simply because she absolutely does not know what is happening to her here and now. After all, the slightest discomfort in the soul or body can always be seized with something tasty. And, thanks to the proven method, it will let go for a while. Until the next discomfort.

And, perhaps, the mother will unknowingly be jealous of her beautiful daughter (like a stepmother to Snow White) and try to do everything to get rid of her beauty bursting with youth. Even so … while mockingly complaining to others that she is slimmer than her child, despite her age and problems.

Or add new portions for fear of losing her daughter early - after all, she can start dating boys, get married and flutter out of the parent's nest. And who else needs her, a wretch, except for her mother. In addition, rape can be avoided - after all, the child does not go anywhere, sits at home and eats pies to the TV series. So mom is calmer.

Mom can get carried away with work, absolutely not paying attention to her daughter. And she, tired of fighting for her attention, will begin to get better to be noticed. Now it is big, and it cannot be hidden. Now it's hard not to notice her.

Or parents constantly attack their child, forcing him to defend himself with the help of a fat "shield", comforting himself with a sweet one.

And, perhaps, dad also joins in, mocking at first the little donut, then the fat cow. Without even assuming that he burns with a hot iron these offensive words in the girl's heart, forcing her to hate her body and lose sensitivity to it.

Mom, who in every possible way supports her daughter's good appetite, will tell her that she is not fat at all, but absolutely normal and will wage a sophisticated struggle against any attempts by her daughter to lose weight. She will throw tantrums, cook her favorite food, persuade to eat a piece (after all, nothing will happen from him), lure with a delicious smell and a full refrigerator. After all, the main thing that worries her is to lose power over her daughter. And food is the main method of influencing her. And the girl finally surrenders under monstrous pressure. Gestalt does not end. She will try to complete it over and over again as an adult, scolding herself for the lack of willpower and absolutely not realizing why she is failing.

The stigma “fat cow” and the words of my mother that sound in my head: “nothing will happen from one candy” skillfully and habitually do their job.

In order to get out of this vicious circle, you need, first of all, to realize the reasons that influenced weight gain, work out parental attitudes, develop new eating habits, awaken feelings, revitalize your body (massages, yoga, dance, rubbing in creams, contrast shower, bath, etc.), take your folds, wrinkles and stretch marks - all of yourself with all the pounds accumulated and the years lived.

And only after that permanent changes are possible.